(Closed) Husband Initiating Sex Less Frequently

posted 8 months ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Have you asked him why he doesn’t seem into it lately?

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

missouthernbelle :  it happens and is completely normal when the frequency changes and goes back. Rarely does it have anything to do with ones appearance! If everyone had to be in shape and put together all the time to get some it would be a very sparse world lol. 

Is he going through a stressful time? Have you mentioned anything to him or are you thinking of waiting it out and seeing what happens?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I think relationships ebb and flow in this department. His testosterone levels may be fluctating. Whatever it is I wouldn’t take it personally. FH and I were once a day ppl for quite awhile, sometimes we are 3-4 times a week ppl, sometimes once a week, sometimes 10 days to two weeks and then right back to 3-4 times a week. It’s just a cycle and I wouldnt worry about it at all if everything else in your relationship is great! Just because that is how it is right now doesn’t mean it’s the new normal. Take a break from trying to initiate and watch a movie and cuddle and connect in a different way.Yes, he still thinks you are sexy and wants you!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I had the same issue and talked to my fiance about it. Healthy relationship, nothing was wrong. He actually confided that he was putting on weight and ffelt insecure. I wasnt expecting that. But the conversation opened the door of discussion on how frequently we both need/want to have sex. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2005

missouthernbelle :  How old are you and your DH? Depending on his age his testosterone levels could be dropping. My own Darling Husband just turned 49 and his testosterone levels have been in steady decline.  Testosterone starts dropping about 1% a year after the age of 30. So if you have reached the age of 40 then you are already down 10%. Hubby and I dont have sex as often but we still have intimacy in other ways. 

As other posters have mentioned, sex between partners ebbs and flows. It can change from week to week and month to month. Nothing has to be wrong, it just happens. If it continues maybe ask him to have a check up with his doctor.  

By The Way, due to cancer treatments, I hit menopause early and lost my sex drive. Things happen. It might even happen to you. 

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2021

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Closing thread as spam post bumped it. 

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