(Closed) Husband insists on naming our baby after his father

posted 9 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
5091 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Your husband has said he would get over it.  You and your husband are the only opinions that truly matter.  If your husband’s family wants a relationship with their grandson, they’ll get over it, too.

Post # 4
6889 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have to agree with what the PP said, your husband is just going to have to get over it and only opinion that matters is his. 

Post # 5
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh boy, I hear you!  My in-law family has similar traditions. There has to be, at all times, a John and a Thomas in the family.

My advice would have been the middle name option, but you already tried this. 🙁

Stick to your guns on this one. This is YOUR child, not theirs! Maybe you can suggest absolutely ridiculous names throughout the pregnancy, so they will at least be relieved when the kid ends up having a normal name, even if it isn’t the name they wanted.

Post # 6
2536 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What’s your Dad’s name tradition?

Post # 7
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@GreenEyedMoon:  Totally agree.  OP – you and your husband are the only opinions that matter and if he’ll get over it, who cares what the rest of his family says?

Post # 8
1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yup, totally annoying, especially the additional relatives (not your DH) who bring it up.  My Future Father-In-Law mentioned that I “must” name kids after his parents…..talking to Fiance later that day I gave my list of reasons that isn’t happening as well, many of which match up with yours. I also just 100% resent being told by someone that I “must” do anything, particularly as it applies to my future children. Screw that. In the end only you and your DH get any say in your children’s names and that is how it should be.

Post # 9
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sure you thought of this, but you could always use it as a middle name. Your in-laws may be disappointed at first, but it is only you and your husband that make the final decision. 

Thankfully, we don’t have to worry about this tradition with FI’s family. The tradition was on both sides (female and male) – basically the first born male is named after the father, the first born female was named after the mother. FI’s older siblings already went against that. 

Post # 9
3770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

There are seriously so many scenarios here, I wouldn’t worry too much. Maybe you will have more then one boy, you could use it as a middle name. Or maybe you will have girls:) Try not to stress I am sure when the time comes you and your husband will come up with some compromise.

Post # 10
1456 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Just because I’m morbidly curious, would you mind sharing the name with us?

Post # 12
802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is he Italian?  That’s totally an Italian thing too, if not (depending on where in Italy your family is from).  My sister’s Father-In-Law graciously accepted the middle name compromise because they wanted to name their son after my grandfather, and everyone on both sides was “shocked” by how “generous” he was.  How is it generous to allow someone to name their child without interference?  Beats me.

They might not be happy, but if they make a fuss I’d start pretending you don’t plan to have kids at all so that when you have kids they’re just so relieved that they let you name them whatever you want without complaining.  

Post # 14
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

This is your and your husband’s choice alone. Maybe share those reasons with your husband and emphasis the fact that you want to establish yourself as your own family unit.

Also, I’m also dying to know. What is the name?!?!?

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