husband internet addiction

posted 1 year ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2021

Do you two do things together? Maybe suggest a little getaway or activity/adventure, if he says no, then I think you have a bigger issue on your hands. possibly unhappy, depression? Have a little sit down with him and talk.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - New England

Has he always been this way or is this new behavior?

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Poor guy sounds depressed 🙁 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

He sounds depressed. But it also seems like he has a tendency for passiveness. Has he expressed a desire to change? Is he receptive when you talk? Like agreeing a date night or a hobby together?

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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starcatcher :  

Bee, we can’t diagnose depression from here, but, an evaluation sounds like a great idea.  If he is, indeed, depressed, he needs treatment.  Many people struggling with depression benefit from meds and therapy.  But, *he* has to make the choice.

Having a baby sounds like a truly horrible idea.

Beyond that, there isn’t anything you can do but decide if you can life out your life this way.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

In terms of never planning a vacation, outing, date, etc… that is my husband to a T. I’ve complained about his lack of planning and nothing ever changes. Some people are just like that. So you’re going to have to do the planning. My husband complains on vacation too and wants to stay in the hotel while I do not. So from now on I’m not going to plan any busy activity based vacation with him. If I want to do something busy, I will go alone or with a friend if I can find anybody.

And honestly my husband is the same. He comes home, eats, watches his TV show (and it’s the same one he’s seen over and over!! Ugh), and goes to sleep. So yes, anytime we go somewhere I suggested it.

On the bright side, you’re usually going to get to go where you want since you planned it. Plus with the coronavirus, where else is he going to go or do right now? Nowhere and nothing

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Oh girl, the last thing is having a baby.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@starcatcher:  why are you still with him because it sounds like you hate his guts from your posts on here? It just sounds incredibly toxic and nothing good can come from a toxic environment. Move on and allow yourself to find someone who fits your level of expectations and wants.

I would also suggest you be a little introspective about your role in this. Your disdain and absolute hatred of him drips through the screen here and I’m sure it is entirely visible to him too which can be absolutely destructive to his wellbeing and is likely an example of emotional abuse.  A licenced therapist has basically gone to extreme lengths to cut couples therapy and work solely on him. They don’t do that lightly. It is standard practice to not do couples therapy when one partner is abusive and/or narcissistic and I wonder if this is why the therapist refused to work with you both as a couple after a few sessions and solely focused on your husband to help him get out of an abusive relationship with you….

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

So why exactly are you still with him???

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