husband internet addiction

posted 2 years ago in Married Life
Post # 31
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Busy bee

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@starcatcher:  okay I’m sorry I admit I laughed when you referred to him as “f-face” 

Why are you with him?? It sounds like you absolutely hate him. There’s literally no reason whatsoever you should still be married to this man.

I would literally rather be alone every day for the rest of my life than be in the relationship you’ve described.

 

 

  • This reply was modified 7 months, 3 weeks ago by melearenee.
Post # 32
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Helper bee

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@starcatcher:  You don’t stay with someone you can’t stand because you think you can’t find anyone else. That is a personal feeling of yours that should be worked out in therapy and it isn’t your husband’s job to have to be there due to a self esteem issue on your end. It isn’t right to continue this relationship only because you don’t want to be alone. 

Post # 33
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Blushing bee

My fiance is a coach potato, too. But he’s also a great dad, lover and partner so it doesn’t bother me at all. I also need to do all of the planning/tell him what needs to be done but it works with my personality. 

I don’t think these are the real issues here. 

Post # 34
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2021

Have you decided for yourself what you want? I went through a similar situation once. Only after a while he started an alcohol addiction, then a gambling addiction. I had to take out loans to feed my children and wait and hope for a long time. In the end I left. I wish I had done it earlier. 

Post # 35
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Wannabee

Maybe he just doesn’t communicate enough? Or you behave in a way that makes him want to hide in the virtual world. And then men start drinking and going out. It is better to take loans for pleasant things, such as a joint vacation or a date. Then there will be fewer problems in the relationship.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper

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@starcatcher:  Reading your posts I am quite sure that you will be no happier without him than you are with him. Where ver you go, there you are, and you seem very unhappy and defeated by life to me. 

I would suggest ignoring him as much as possible and shifting your focus to yourself and ways that you can improve your own life, with or without him. I dont think that he is necessarily the problem here.

And I am not being unkind, I am just really, really concerned about you based on what you’ve written. 

 

Post # 43
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Honey bee

Bee, there is so much that’s wrong here, but I’ll highlight 3 key things – (1) you need to get your own therapist. Your current therapist doesn’t sound good at all. (2) the resentment is palpable throughout your thread and I really believe you will be better without this man. (3) consider stepping away entirely from this relationship while you figure out your next steps. Your life will be so much better. This man sounds like total deadweight and there is no reason to live like this.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

Bee, please listen when I write this. You are not his keeper. It’s not your job and you just simply aren’t. For your well-being please drop this relationship ASAP.

Post # 45
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Busy bee

So your plan is to stay in this complete miserable marriage and live a completely miserable life because in your mind being with a man you absolutely hate is better than being single? And he won by default because you couldn’t find anyone else while you were dating?

I’m sorry, but how pathetic. You need to grow a pair and exit this marriage and realize that you DO.NOT.HAVE.TO.BE.MARRIED.

How about you be an alpha female and stand up for your own happiness and LEAVE?!

I’m not trying to be mean but this is a horrifically unhealthy mindset, to the point where I hope this is a troll post.

 

  • This reply was modified 7 months, 2 weeks ago by melearenee.
Post # 46
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Worker bee

Did anyone else read this and think that this just sounds like how yours and everyone else’s dad’s were, when you were a kid? 

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