Post # 1
My dad is an impossible man to get along with. In his old age he has become stubborn, whiney, judgmental, short tempered and obnoxious. Over the past 11 years my husband, bless his heart, has played it cool and kept a straight face when my dad goes on his tangents. Last night my dad made another one of his dumb comments (called my husband a weirdo multiple times for not wanting the lights turned up all the way) and he finally snapped back at him. He told my dad to get out of the room (my dad’s house!) and leave him alone for once. My dad backed off and went to another room to annoy my mom but when we left my dad didn’t even say goodbye to him. I’m proud of my husband for standing up to my dad and I think he’s proud of himself too. But I’m also worried he’ll become too comfortable with it and cause tension within the family. We’re having dinner together today for Father’s Day and I don’t want there to be a showdown, especially not in front of my mom. What should I do?
Post # 3
@Aquaria: Ugh Im really sorry you are going through this! Props to your husband for going 11 years tho!! My FI only made it 1.5 years before him and my dad got into a yelling match because my Dad is always such a jerk. Calls FI city boy, pansy, etc. It was NOT pretty, FI pretty much called dad every name in the book!! But I will say…after they got in eachother’s faces and hashed it out, they had a private talk and worked things out. Ever since then my dad has been wayyyy nicer to FI and FI is loving it! We know that my dad will prob never be a teddy bear but at least he has stopped name calling. Good luck tho! Hopefully your Hubs and dad can work it out!! 🙂
Post # 4
@Aquaria: I think you should talk with your husband and let him know your concerns. Let him know that you’re there for him, on his side, but you don’t want it to get out of control. Just let him know exactly how you’re feeling, because there is nothing wrong with how you feel! You care about your mom!