Post # 31
beean0nym0us : agree with all the PPs who are saying that you are being hugely taken advantage of by a very selfish, childish person. Either he agrees to get his shit together and then actually takes action or you need to kick him out till he does. Do not leave your home, you’re pregnant with a toddler – a stable roof over your head is waaaaay more critical for you. Right now, he’s not contributing to your family or lives, he is in fact a drain on it.
Post # 32
He’s going thru a life crisis and they all end the same: divorce. So you need to inform everyone of the current situation and ask for help with the children. Find a new home you can afford because you can’t count on him ever paying child support. He’s going to keep living this loser partying lifestyle,wallow in addiction, and eventually end up in rehab- or with a new woman he impregnates, he’ll probably fail that child, too.
It’s over. Go talk to a divorce lawyer. He won’t even fight you for custody because he doesn’t want the children, they’ll get in the way of his partying. He doesn’t want this life and he’s already mentally checked out. You have to be strong for the children, you can do this, RUN NOW!
Post # 33
This would not it well with me at all.
However, I attended a lecture/event thinggie on pre- and post- natal mood disorders recently and for the first time ever I saw the lecturer dive in on the subject of paternal prenatal depression and anxiety. I’m just going to leave that out there in case this resonates in any way with the OP.