Post # 1
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Blushing bee
So my best friend is getting married and I’m one of her BM’s. I’m doing her make up and a lot of other things for her, and it is out of town so the arrangements are a little wonky, but we’ve managed to figure things out.
My friend is doing the aisle walking thing where the bridesmaids walk on the arm of the groomsmen, and my husband is not one of the groomsmen. He told me he thinks it’s wrong to split up couples and that he hates the thought of me being on another man’s arm.
I told him that it’s only for a short time, then we go our seperate ways. It’s not like I’m going to snuggle him or anything! I’m going to be walking for my friend regardless, and DH is just going to have to deal with it, I just don’t understand why he’s so upset over such a small thing.
Anyone else have/had to deal with this?
Post # 3
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Honey bee
I definately think your DH is just goinjg to have to deal with it. What harm is it to walk for 30 seconds with another man in front of a hundred other people? My DH was in a wedding last summer that I was not in, and I didn’t think about it for a second.
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
It’s perfectly normal for you to be escorted by the corresponding groomsman. There’s nothing romantic about it. Your husband will still be your date!
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
If seen plenty of wedding parties where there are BMs and GMs and their SO’s are not. There’s nothing wrong with it.
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
If you were going as a guest and she had ushers, you’d be escorted by an usher to your seat. Being escorted is not at all being “paired up” with someone. I think he probably just doesn’t understand the meaning of it – it’s to be polite to a lady when walking a distance in heels. Maybe put it in terms of another man opening a door for you? It’s just a tradition/polite, nothing to do with coupling.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
Yeah i think he’s just going to have to get over it… I also wouldn’t mention this to your friend because it might stress her out. Hopefully he comes around!!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
yes thats sounds quite unreasonable for your DH to think that. Would you be upset if he had to walk down the aisle as a groomsman with an arm linked to a bridesmaid?
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
Out of curiousity, did he take this view with your attendants when you got married? I think he just needs to get over it.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
LOL poor guy. I can see where he is coming from, he sounds a tad bit possessive. I’ve had to watch my guy go down the aisle with other girls and I seethe on the inside (GITAWAYFROMMYMANB*TCH!!!) LOL but I mean, it’s not like you’re going to meet up with the guy you are walking down the aisle with in a hotel room or back alley or anything lol. Just give your guy a kiss, maybe let him know you understand where he is coming from and reassure him that he’s your baby 😛 He will learn to deal!
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Unless the groomsman escorting you is your ex whom you still have vivid fantasies about and have called out his name in your sleep or during sex, then your hubby needs to deal with it 
Post # 13
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Honey bee
Sorry, but your husband is being silly! I’m sure he’ll get over it, think you’re just gonna tell him he pretty much HAS to get over it, not much of a choice there! lol
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
seems a little silly. I don’t really know what else to say.
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
Has he not been to many weddings? Or just not noticed the pairings? In the deep south, it’s not uncommon for grooms to have their fathers as Best Man. Which means the groom’s father is usually escorting a young woman at least during the recessional. No one even blinks. Just how it’s done. If you weren’t a bridemaid, but just a guest, you’d be escorted to your seat on the arm of an usher, with your husband walking behind.
Post # 16
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Busy bee
Was going to ask the same thing as above… how many weddings has he been to? Has he always assumed that the Bridesmaids and Groomsmen were dating at the time? It just so happens that everybody’s best friends dates each other? (I know this is an overexaggeration, I know he doesn’t believe that, but still!) I agree, sometimes it’s strange to walk down arm in arm with someone I just met, with an SO already sitting in his seat all alone. But the traditions of marriage isn’t going anywhere, and logistically it makes alot of sense! (Plus I really do appreciate the extra support when I’m in high heels! LOL)
