husband jobless for too long

posted 1 year ago in Married Life
Post # 31
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Bumble bee

Do you guys really need cable because if you’re in such a tight financial spot, that’s considered a “luxury” expense.  My H and I did not have cable and only had the most basic WiFi for many years when we were struggling.  

Also, your H needs to stop waiting before he takes action in finding a job – like waiting to hear back from a potential employer, waiting to ask friends about jobs because he has too much pride, waiting for this, waiting for that ….. honestly you guys will be waiting forever with that strategy.  He needs to do everything he can NOW today and not put off till later waiting for something to happen, because I guarantee you will spend all of his 401(k) at that rate and it still won’t be enough.

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Why don’t you both look into serving or bartending? I know you say you’re not interested in doing anything but childcare but if you’re desperate for money it’s a good way to bring in income. I worked as a bartender while I was doing my masters and sucked having to do it but I made really good money. And most restaurants are almost always hiring. Good luck!

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

As a last resort, is there any chance he could get his previous job back?

Post # 35
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

he needs to be a waiter or delivering pizzas in the meantime. Literally anything. Have him try to do that, or call a temp agency. 

Post # 36
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Busy Beekeeper

anon0716 :  how many interviews has he been on that didn’t lead to jobs? Perhaps a look into his interviewing style would help. I used to be a hiring manager and I could tell within 3 minutes who wanted THIS JOB, who wanted ANY job, and who was just there to show someone at home that they were “trying”. There is a clear difference between enthusiasm and desperation – make sure he’s giving off the former vibes. 

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse

I’m so sorry, Bee. It does sound like a confusing situation not just the typical “my husband doesn’t want to work” kind of a post. 

I agree with PP that it would be better to find other places hiring so you aren’t so financially stressed. I understand how rough that would be, as my Darling Husband makes way more than I do. 

I also wouldn’t worry about his background. My Darling Husband has a stupid dui from when he was 18. He was driving and way under the legal limit but he was a minor so he was charged. That was about 12 years ago but the whole time he hasn’t been turned down for jobs because of it. I would highly recommend your husband think about sales. You can make great money if that’s his cup of tea! 

Good luck!

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