Post # 16
I wouldn’t be ok with this. My hubs and I share what, where, when and who always. Its usually like a notification system. Rarely we stop each other from doing things, if we do there’s usually good reason that we talk about. We call it our buddy system… Like we’re always looking out for each other.
Post # 17
No, it’s not normal. It’s like he doesn’t feel he is a part of a couple. We usually plan our free time together, so the other person updates on when they are planning to go out. Or updates after to share the daily events. Obviously, he is not sharing. Sorry, the only man I knew who did that was not up to any good. Does he let you see the messages on his phone? (for example, if you forgot yours and need to write someone or make a call). I am not saying to read them, but generally how reluctant he would be to give you his phone.
Post # 18
I agree with PP, it’s weird to not tell someone where you’re going. Fiance and I always keep each other in the loop, but we never try to stop each other or control each other. It’s usually out of concern, like if I don’t come home right after work he worries something happened so I let him know I’m going out with coworkers. And it’s even helpful, if he’s going to a certain area I can remind him we’re almost out of kitty litter so can he pick up more at the targe that’s on his way home? Etc.
And correct me if I’m wrong, but I read the drunk driving comment as just a hypothetical, worst case scenario type thing? Or is this something he’s actually done before?
Post # 19
I mean. This is pretty strange.
My partner is pretty independent, doesn’t like feeling restricted or anything but if he’s popping out he’ll always say “Gonna go see such and such.” And generally lets me know if he’s gonna be a while or not (he cooks in the house so generally just to let me know if I need to cook for myself or not) it doesn’t happen often and tbh he generally tells me his plans in advance anyway. I do the same with him. It’s a common curtesy.
Post # 20
jbae111 : I feel like I do this. I’ll tell Dh I’m going to see the girls, or I’m going to the shops and not specify who what where why. I usually tell him all about it when I get home though.
But I don’t drink and Drive, so I’m fairly confident I’ll get home safetly.
It is strange however that once you asked for more details, he remained evasive.