Post # 1
First time poster. Could really use some advice.
So my husband and I married after what would be considered to some a “whirlwind courtship” (2 months of dating). He’s a great guy but the main reason we got together was that he told me he was a great cook and had been cooking all his life. I am a big “foodie” and found this thrilling. I have traveled all over the world sampling different cuisines, as well as nearly every state in the United States. For me, it is a lifestyle. So during our pre-marriage courtship, he never cooked for me because we were mostly going out to eat. But he would nearly always say at restaurants that he “could make this dish better”, which was exciting. So just last week we invited my family and friends over and he promised to make a great meal. So I come home before the get together and he’s had a few glasses of wine which is fine, I mean it’s a party and he had the food going. It smelled great and I could tell the presentation would be great. So people started showing up, drinks started flowing and then finally after about an hour and a half he said the food was ready. So we sit down, prepared for a fantastic meal only to find it was not good at all. The seasoning was way off, the texture was off. It was a chicken pasta dish and the noodles were almost CRUNCHY! I was so embarrassed especially after I had raved to everyone how great of a cook he was. Nobody said anything but I was humiliated. I confronted him later on in the evening and he apologized but also admitted he didn’t cook as much as he said he did. Read: he lied. He went on to tell me he watched cooking shows and would cook fairly simple meals here and there but nothing on a grand scale. I asked him why he would lie to me when he knows this is important to me and he essentially had nothing to say. I am seriously considering leaving this marriage, because what else could he have lied about? To some this might be ridiculous, but this is my lifestyle. Advice would be soooo appreciated.
Post # 2
It doesn’t sound ridiculous–it sounds like what happens when you marry someone after two months of dating. I’m sorry this is happening to you. I think you’re right to consider it a wake-up call about how much you actually know about–and how much you can trust–this guy.
Post # 3
It’s a bit tough to feel sorry for you for choosing to enter a MARRIAGE with a man based off him telling you he is a good cook, when you haven’t even known him long enough to have ever sampled his cooking…
Is this even real??
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
You married a man because he’s a “great cook” but he’d never cooked for you? Bee, do your homework! If you marry someone after 2 months, you better spend those 2 months really digging into the person you’re agreeing to marry. You dont know this man. It’s not hard to lie for 2 months in a brand new relationship. Get an annulment and date for a while.. find out who this person actaully is.
Post # 5
Advice? Idk, don’t marry someone after 2 months based on (apparently the only reason) their cooking skills?
Post # 7
Lesson learned. If you haven’t been with someone long enough for them to cook a meal for you, it’s probably not wise to jump right to marriage.
You should be concerned about what else he is lying to you about. You can’t really know someone in 2 months, I’m sorry.
You might as well divorce. It doesn’t seem you had much respect for the seriousness of marriage and what that commitment means to begin with.
Post # 9
You married someone after two months. Honestly, what did you expect? At least now you know you prize honesty over your “foodie skills” turn-on.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
Honestly, this “lie” doesn’t seem like a big deal to me. We all say shit to impress new partners…which is exactly what happened there. You dated for two months and you’re upset that he wasn’t as great of a cook as he said?
While this isn’t as big of a deal as you’re making it out to be…you can not know someone after 2 months. That fact alone is enough to say you don’t know this guy, but his white lie about cooking skills is not why you should be concerned here.
Post # 12
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Post # 13
People are always on their “best behaviour” when they first start dating. Unfortunately, some people even lie. I don’t think it’s wise to marry someone after two months but it is what it is. It sounds like you have a lot to learn about each other. Good luck, hopefully things work out for the best!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
sboom : I feel like if this isn’t already an Onion article, it really should be
Post # 15
I would question the character and judgment of anyone who would get married after 2 months. He exaggerated, albeit on a grand scale, but it wasn’t an outright lie. To be honest my side eye is aimed more at you for marrying someone because they said they were a great cook, which is subjective, and THEN didnt even bother to sample it before inviting a bunch of people over….oh yeah and getting MARRIED for that sole reason!