(Closed) Husband lied to me and now I feel duped

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 106
7800 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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morethanyesterday :  I assumed he made some sort of pasta bake and it was dry and crispy that way?? 

Post # 107
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Post # 108
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Busy bee

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thesecondwife :  World-class “creamie” removed from your Instagram account – I nearly died reading that.

Post # 109
2544 posts
Sugar bee

If his cooking skills were THAT important to you, why didn’t you wait to actually taste his cooking rather than taking the word of someone you’ve known for two months? People can say anything in the first two months. That’s why you usually date them longer than two months – to actually get to know them. 

Personally I’d get a divorce (annulment if possible!?) not because he’s not a good cook, but because you married someone you don’t know. 

Post # 110
4817 posts
Honey bee

Exactly what advice are you looking for here?  How to summon Superman to fly around the world backward and reverse time to stop you from making incredibly impulsive life altering decisions anchoring yourself to a complete stranger?  How to stop being so gullible?  I usually take a hardline on lying but honestly, I’m not even sure that’s the case here.  Dude embellished his resume to sound more impressive because he wanted to impress the his date who claims foodie culture is their life and get in their pants.  Because no one in the history of dating has ever pretended to be way more into whatever hobby the person they like is really into before.  I’m guessing the first time he said that he wasn’t figuring you would be hot to trot 8 weeks in and going all in and expecting him to cook for all your friends.  When you don’t even even bother to fact check a guy you’ve known for less time than most of the condiments in your refrigerator, I think being impulsive and gullible shares far more of the blame here than the lie itself.

So at this point you can decide if this is a deal breaker and whether it was temporary insanity to marry someone you barely know, get a divorce or annulment if applicable, and hey, maybe even start dating him again and get to know him before rushing in to marry a second time.  

Or you stay married and take some time to get to know him.  Maybe teach him how to cook.  And maybe keep your finances separate and use barrier method birth control/std prevention (since you should do that at least teice several.months apart) for awhile while you backtrack to the getting to know you stage.  Try some (pre)marital counseling to start talking about all the things you should have talked about before rushing down the aisle.  And also, maybe rethink that being a foodie thing is my life melodrama you got going on there.  Yes, some people appreciate finer foods more than others, but everyone eats and food network has been around for decades making foodie culture the norm – you ain’t that special.

Post # 111
10283 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Looks like OP has gotten all of the advice she possilby can from this thread, so I’m closing it due to flags. 

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