Husband lost wedding band – has this happened to you? What would you do?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 18
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Helper bee

Been there, done that. My H lost his ring before our first year of marriage was up. It was a smooth wear ring so it went on and off easily. He was constantly taking it off and playing with it.

One night we were out to dinner and I looked at his hand and said “where’s your ring”? That man looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language. He had no idea. Then he thought he had taken it off and left it at work. He called his buddy/colleague to ask what to do. He decided to go back to work and speak with security. Never did find it. To this day his buddy makes fun of him whenever we go out with him and his wife.

He now wears his father’s wedding band, that has a lot of sentimental value and he never takes it off. So he’s much more careful. It’s also a pretty tight ring so not as easy to play with. It irritated me at the time, but I actually love his fathers ring and it holds a lot of sentiment and memories with it anyways.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My husband hasn’t officially lost his ring (though it did spend about 6 months in a bag he left behind for work in a different city once…) but he lost some weight and his original ring is too big. So he got a pack of silicone ones. Obviously wears the camo one when the pack included classier ones like black and dark grey 🙄 but whatever, I’m glad he’s happy to wear anything. Agree that you should replace his good ring, as you said it’s covered anyway, but maybe do get him sized in the winter… I wanted to get my husband a titanium ring, there’s some really nice ones! But the silicone ones he can wear for work, so that’s what he’s happy with. 

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper

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kiram :  I have one for when my hands hurt and they are great! 

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Sterling silver does tarnish if not worn daily. It’s rather easy to clean up though. Toothpaste works well. You could do stainless steel as well. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

Awh I’m sorry bee, I would be pretty upset if my husband lost his ring for sentimental reasons. I think getting a “nicer” ring for special occassions and wearing a silicone ring daily is a good compromise. Another option is that you could get a cheaper non silicone so if he lost it too it wouldn’t be so bad. We got my husbands 14k yellow gold ring a pawn shop for like $200 and there were definitely cheaper options too. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: USA

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AnonBee2019 :  I’m sorry bee, that sucks!! Since it’s only been 7 months I would definitely get him a cheapo band for his daily wear and maybe reserve the nice ring for special occasions. But I totally get the sentimental value of his original ring being lost and I’d definitely be bummed- but it’s just a ring at the end of the day, and can be replaced. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee

My husband was tinkering around in the shop about a month after we married and accidentally threw his ring away with paper towels after washing his hands. Fortunately, we did find it. He thought I was going to be furious with him, but I wasn’t. I told him he didn’t have to worry about wearing it. The men in my family have always been very physical and work with their hands a lot, so none of them really wore their bands.  It could actually be a hazard for them with their work and hobbies.  I know his heart is mine, so I don’t worry about the symbol.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

My husband lost his ring on our honeymoon while we were swimming in the ocean.  It’s a silicon ring so I wasn’t concerned, and since then we’ve replaced it with 2 more silicon rings.  He just can’t seem to hang onto them!  He does have a “fancy” ring that was his grandpa’s that we used only for the ceremony, I can’t imagine him ever wearing it out in public though, it’s a little gaudy.  I like your idea of him having a nice one to wear out on dates, etc. but not for everyday.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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AnonBee2019 :  I like your idea it sounds like a nice compromise! And I think it will be kind cool to have a special occasion ring. 

Post # 27
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Newbee

My husband lost his after a year… but he almost lost it on the way home from the wedding because he thought you had to take off jewelry to go through a metal detector and then he left it in the bin. The airport security guy was kind enough to chase us down with it. 

My brother lost two… his first one very shortly after the wedding.

I think if it’s something you aren’t used to it’s easy to do. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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AnonBee2019 :  FWIW, I have a gold colored silicone ring (has a slight shimmer to it) and on several occasions, friends or family have asked about my “new gold band” before they saw it up close! 

Post # 29
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We’ll if JM will replace a $400 ring for no charge, I’d definitely take advantage of that and get the nice ring back.  Like you said, that’s what you paid for.  Was it sized right?  A ring should never really slip off that easily.  Then let him get a silicone ring if he wants.  Or you can get some tungsten one off overstock, they’re like $50.  That’s what my husband has as his “real” ring.  

Post # 30
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Busy bee

+1 for get a titanium or tungsten ring. You can get some nice ones which are really inexpensive, and then don’t worry about the value. Also I would have him get sized at a jewellery store, I agree with those who mentioned if it fits well it shouldn’t just fly off his hand without him even noticing. 

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