- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I need some advice on getting my husband to help around the house. We just found out that we’re expecting and for the first couple days, he seemed to perk up and really step up to the plate. But today just reminded me of his usual self. His work schedule is 9 hour days, Monday through Friday with every other Friday off. This Friday happens to be the one he has off. Well, we have a wood stove for heat and a bunch of oak we need to split so it has time to dry for next year. I casually suggested (since he won’t let me lift anything anyway so I can’t help much with the splitting) that he split some wood on Friday since he’s got the day off. He literally has nothing else planned to do.
He feels like he’s still on vacation (from the holidays) until Monday of next week and he shouldn’t have to do anything. I asked him does he literally want to waste the entire day and not do anything, and of course, that’s a yes. He wants to sit all day, probably watch tv and look at stuff on the internet (he’s into outdoor stuff, guns, etc). I literally do everything around the house. Laundry, dishes, cleaning, dogs..everything. When I get exhausted from it all, he’ll say “you know I can help,” but as soon as I ever ask for help, it becomes a huge fight and a HUGE burden on him to have to do anything. When I point it out, another fight. Sometimes he’ll come around a few hours later and apologize, sometimes he’ll come home pissed. We both work full-time. But I feel like with everything else I have to do when I get home, it’s not even close to fair. The issue today with the wood splitting on his day off is really worrying me when I become noticeably pregnant and can’t do as much around the house. For any of you that have husbands who don’t help around much, how do you get them to help without it ending in a fight? I can’t handle juggling it all, especially once we have a baby.