(Closed) Husband refuses to eat healthy

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 32
2430 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Leave him alone about it– he’ll come around to a healthier lifestyle in his own time.  The more you push, the less he’s gonig  to want to do it.  If you give him some space and continue to offer the healthier options eventually he’ll get there.  


Post # 33
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Does he like juice? Because if he does you should check out green smoothies. They have tons of veggies and fruit in them, but only taste like the fruit. It’s the only health kick/diet my mother has ever been able to turn into a lifestyle (she’s been a yoyo dieter all her life). My father drinks them too. My parents have found they are much healthier, lost weight, and their receding gums even went back (the dentist was amazed). Another interesting side effect is that getting enough nutrition with the smoothies has led to my parents having no cravings whatsoever. My dad used to be a bit of a chocolate fiend, but it no longer appeals to him. They also find fast food replulsive. I think it has to do with tastebud rewiring. The only reason I don’t do the smoothies is because I just graduated college and I’m too poor:(

Post # 34
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My DH came from a family that only ate things that were brown, white, or yellow : ) So there were very few veggies he would eat when we got together.  Once we moved in together, he started eating healthier because I will not buy or make junk food except for very rare occasions. If he wants it, he has to buy/make it himself. It’s a great deterrent since he rarely wants to make that effort! And now that he’s eating healthier, he has commented aloud on how interesting it is that he doesn’t even crave the bad stuff as much.

Post # 35
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m mostly just commenting here so I can follow along!

DH and I had this discussion a few nights ago. I made chicken with cheese and tomatoes, salad and bread. He ate the chicken and cheese (took off the tomaotes) and the bread. No veggies AT ALL!

I do pack his lunch every day, so I make sure he has some fruit in there. He’s actually pretty good about eating fruit (he likes it) but he just never thinks to eat it. He’ll reach for chips as a snack instead. But he never eats vegetables! He was a picky eater growing up and his parents just kind of let it go, so now he won’t eat anything with vegetables. I have to force him to try a tiny bite and it gets so frustrating!

I have told him many times that I don’t want to be his mother. I am his wife. I don’t want to treat him like a child and hide veggies in his food. How can I look at him as a man and a partner when I treat him like a child? Not sexy.

But I also don’t want him to abandon me because of health issues related to his diet. When I say “abandon” I don’t mean that he’d walk out on me, but more that his habits will cause him to get sick or die, thereby leaving me alone.

Does anyone have any advice that doesn’t involve hiding food? I want him to get over this problem, and while I’m willing to be flexible, I don’t think I should have to do all the work here while he eats chips and slowly kills himself.

Post # 36
1182 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Bichon Frise:  

Start making it harder to throw out the veg. Like instead of mac and cheese, make cauliflower and cheese. What’s he gonna do? Lick the cheese sauce off and call it dinner? 😉 

But my serious suggestion is get him involved in the food. Ask specifically, “what veg do you want for dinner?” and when he says, “I don’t care, whatever,” say, “I want to have something that you won’t just throw away, so you pick this time.”

I find that crisp veg is much nicer, often people overcook it. Steamed or oven grilled or fresh in a salad. Spices are your friend. Toss the veg in a bit of olive oil, salt, and spices before baking or after steaming. Lemon juice can make a huge difference. I also sometimes do a light white sauce over it and serve with some pasta (or rice or potato or cous cous or quinoa) and a protein.

Make dishes where the veg is the focal point like eggplant parm or grilled portobello , veg lasagna or veg pot pie. Do a couple vegetarian nights a week and try new dishes. Make it about finding new foods rather than eating more veg and when you hit on a couple things you both like, add them to the rotation.

If he’s a snacker, put out carrot and cucumber sticks and broc/cauliflower florets with a low fat dip (you can use mixes with yogurt instead of sour cream).

Post # 37
7380 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

It really depends how much he doesn’t like veggies.  I know guys who won’t touch a vegetable and they do have to be pureed and hidden in a meal.  Undecided

DH claimed he didn’t like raw veggies, and was a bit picky about cooked ones too.  If there’s something to put on them though, he loves them  Raw carrots and raw peppers, he wouldn’t go near them, until I introduced him to hummus.  He also got more into eating them raw if it meant he didn’t have to wait for peppers to cook while BBQ on our mini BBQ.

He also has no problem if I toss veggies into something like butter chicken or a stew either.  I’m not hiding them, as he knows they are there.  If there’s cheese sauce or something like that, he’ll have a big helping.

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