(Closed) Husband says I ignore him…

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 2
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Don’t make plans when he is off without checking with him first; cuddle up with him when you read; greet him at the door when one of you comes home; do a few randomly sweet things for him; plan an activity for the two of you to do together.

Post # 3
5938 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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PositiveThinking:  Well he should have expressed to you that he felt lonely else how would you know? You can’t read his mind. Sounds kind of like he pent it up or at the very least, wasn’t very adult in how he went about telling you. But now that you know, you can be aware and come in to say “Hi” first before FB etc etc. I imagine you already had a convo about it?

Post # 4
1555 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Have you read the 5 Love Languages? It helps to have that knowledge of what the other person needs and why so that you have that to drive your new habits.

Post # 5
2505 posts
Sugar bee

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PositiveThinking:  Paying attention to your husband shouldn’t take a lot of effort. Just remember the little things, like PP said, greet him at the door, hug and kiss him goodbye/goodnight. Go for walks together after dinner, cook together, and snuggle while you watch TV.

Don’t treat him like a roommate. Interact with him and ask about his day and his plans etc. I’m introverted too and my Fiance does a great job making me feel loved even when we don’t have a lot of time to spend together.


Post # 6
9561 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we generally don’t leave a room without kissing each other goodbye unless we are coming right back.

every time you walk in the door or leave the house you should hug and kiss him hello and goodbye, talk to him especially if you haven’t seen him all day.

if you are reading on the couch, put your feet on his lap, maybe you will get a foot massage out of it….

Post # 7
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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PositiveThinking:  It’s great that you noticed and picked up on the things he is saying to you. My fiance has been pointing out lately that I’m not listening to him. My brain has been going a mile a minute lately with to-do lists and on my lunch break or when I’ve just gotten home from work (when he wants to talk to me), the first thing on my mind is responding to texts and emails I’ve gotten while I’ve been at work. Unless he gets my attention first, sometimes I don’t even hear him talking to me! 🙁 I feel terrible–but we just have to work on it!

I’m going to try to give my attention to him when I first come home instead of getting on my phone or the computer. Maybe you could try that too. It’s not like we can completely leave those things undone, but maybe he wants your attention FIRST. Guys want to know they are our #1 priority, before Facebook or the Internet or anything. 

Post # 10
2478 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I couldn’t be doing with the sort of needy husband who wanted me to rush to the door and kiss him, let alone attempt to read a book while wrapped around someone else! We’re an affectionate couple – I’d never ignore my DH when he comes home from work for example and we do kiss hello and goodbye. But if he started making rules about dancing attendance on him I’d be unimpressed.

It sounds to me, OP, as if your husband is very insecure. Either that or he has slightly controlling tendencies.

I’m not saying that it isn’t important to assess whether you have begun to take someone’s presence for granted because it’s easy to do that without thinking but an adult shouldn’t need undivided attention either.

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