Post # 31
Bee, you WILL bounce back. You are getting a blessing- cutting ties with people who have no respect for you.
As a previous poster said, make this time all about YOU. Do the things you want and have always dreamed of. Be selfish. Seek therapy. Take care of yourself in the ways that you need and in time you will find someone (if you choose) who is committed, faithful, loyal, loving, and would NEVER do something like this. You will look back and be so thankful that you did not have a child with that man. You are free from all the nonsense and deplorable beavhior. Lean on your friends, if your family is not supportive then forget them (I would).
You will come out on the other end so much stronger with a beautiful life. Do not let this break you. Keep your head up and be great. Sending love, best wishes, and hugs.
Post # 32
I’d love to hear how the *$&* the sister is trying to spin this into being OPs fault. Seriously? Come on.
Absolutely they were trying to push for a threesome to pretend that was when she got pregnant so they could blame OP. Can you even imagine being that messed up, calculating and wicked?
Post # 33
I would divorce as quickly as possible, sue for as much as possoble. Never speak to sister again. Nothing to do with her.
Post # 34
I am sooooo sorry!! Omg, I just want to give you a hug. This is the WORST form of betrayal. He not only cheated, but with your sister, and she is a psychopath. I would completely cut myself off if you can. I think your family would understand if you stopped attending family functions and things. How can you be around two people who hurt you so badly and now they have a baby coming? Not sure what your living/work situation is like, but I would even consider moving away to avoid ever having to run into them and not having to make excuses for not being able to attend family functions. I think for me, that’s what I would do. The further away you are, the better off you will be and eventually, with time and love and support, hopefully you will be able to move on and not think about them. I know this is very traumatizing right now, but please take steps to heal yourself from this and I hope you never have to see those assholes again! They deserve each other and what comes around goes around!
Post # 35
I couldn’t agree more with cblank181. Do take this opportunity to go somewhere new and start again if it is in you to do so. Get away, reboot and put yourself first. This is gut-wrenching but staying in the vicinity and hearing about how their relationship is progressing and the advent of the baby is all just going to be that much more vile to deal with. I’m sure your mother will understand.
A friend of my mum’s had a husband that left her for her best friend. She cut off all contact with both of them and sold up all her belongings they had bought together as man and wife and began anew. She moved away and after a year met the most wonderful man.
Close this chapter in your life and start a new one.
Post # 36
Wow. Just wow. I’m utterly gobsmacked! I can’t even wrap my head around how people would ever think that doing this is okay 😱
Bee, I’m so sorry! Agree with PPs that you should get yourself into counselling to help you deal with this. This is awful and no one would expect you to be able to a handle this without help.
What did your mom say about all of this? Will she be a supporting hand through this?
Post # 37
Please check out sruvivinginfidelity.com
Those people have been in your shoes and will totally help you.
Post # 38
I’m so so sorry, they are total jerks, and I can’t possibly imagine that they will ever have a healthy, happy relationship. You will get through this, just hang in there, one day at a time.
Post # 39
I am so sorry hun , I dont have any words of wisdom but please take good care of yourself and know this isn’t you’re fault. Your sister is a terrible person for doing this to you and the fact she’s blaming you is absolutely insane. This is something out of a telenovella and I’m sorry you have to experience this in real life… Just please focus on yourself and do what makes you happy , I am not sure how long you have been married but i would use this against him in court and sue him to death for putting you through emotional distress , being unfaithful. xo feel better love
Post # 40
I’m so sorry bee, that’s terrible.
Post # 41
They are total pieces of shit! Be glad that you did not have a child with that SOB! Cut them out of your life and begin a new chapter that is toxic free.
Post # 42
Blaming it on you…classic other woman crap.
I’m sorry that you’re married(not for long I hope) to such a degenerate piece of shit. And there’s a roasting pan in hell for your sister. Clean out the bank accounts and investments.
Post # 43
This is striaght out of Jerry Springer. I am so sorry that this is your life right now. But remember it won’t always be, you’ve got an entirely new book of your life to write.
Don’t spend one more sentence on those cheating, lying, assholes.
Post # 44
My heart goes out to you. Definitely get a shark of a divorce lawyer.
Post # 45
I am so sorry, bee. Sending lots of hugs and positive vibes your way. I hope you have the support from your mom and friends. I know you mentioned you were TTC with that jerk, but this is definitely a blessing in disguise, be glad you did not have a child with him.
Your sister and soon-to-be-ex husband are terrible, terrible people. Karma is a bitch.
Surround yourself with love ones. Stay strong, bee, we’re all here for you!