Husband. Sister. Threesome?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 46
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

This is worthy of a daytime television show. You could all go on, and you could confront your sister, she could scream at you, your Dh could take sides and the show would bring in bodyguards… Sorry, getting carried away here, but I could swear I once saw exactly this scenario. 

I am not big on jumping on the leave your husband bandwagon. Indeed, I generally would never encourage someone to leave a marriage without trying to salvage the relationship, but in this case? Could you EVER trust your Dh again? You already know you can never trust your sister. i’d leave the marriage and cut all contact with the sister, including at holidays. If other family members cannot understand, show them the screen shots, but I’d never be in the same room (except perhaps a court room) with either of them again. This crosses so many lines that there’s just no recovering any sort of relationship with anyone involved.

Post # 47
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Wow. 50 shades of fucked up right there. Weird/creepy/cringe enough that your husband has humoured this but YOUR SISTER WANTS TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU??????? If this went ahead I’d bet my life she’d try to end up pregnant by him.

Post # 48
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Busy bee

Get proof of this, take snapshots, forward the messages to your phone but get proof of this. Then serve him with divorce papers and honestly? As low as your sister went in approaching your husband about a threesome, I’d air every message between them on social media. 

Sure it sounds petty but I’m okay with being petty. This was just uncalled for on everyone’s part.

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

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slomotion :  I almost spit out my coffee! But I also concur! Hahahahahaahahh!!!!

Post # 50
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA

This is just…insane on so many levels. And absolutely disgusting.

I’d probably have aleady kicked him out and started the filing of divorce papers, and knowing me, I would have probably already sent screenshots to my mother/father to show them what a piece of shit their daughter is. And then go absolute no-contact with the both of them. Forever.

I’m sorry, but there is no amount of counseling or couple’s therapy in the world that would bring me back from this kind of shit. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this, Bee.

Ugh. So. Gross.

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I would be done with both of them.

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

This is what happens when porn creates unreal expectations of women.

The fact that your husband would even CONSIDER that you would be okay with basically having sex with your own relative is so beyond disgusting, inconsiderate and disrespectful. Even if you had previously discussed the possibility of a threesome with another woman, the fact that he was sneaking behind your back to ask someone (ESPECIALLY YOUR SISTER!!) before OK’ing it with you would be reason enough to get a divorce. 

Your sister…. I can’t even… I don’t even know what to say aside from the fact that I would never speak with her again. Actually, I’m not even that nice, I would drive to her house and beat her ass to a bloody pulp. What a piece of work. 

I can’t imagine any other scenario besides you cutting both of them from your life, because how do you even move on from this and stay together? Imagine Thanksgiving with both of them at the same table? “Oh hey can you pass the mashed potatoes? Could you also give me some stuffing cause you know… I’ve made it very clear already that I’d like some from you”

What in the actual fuck is wrong with both of these people.

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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worriedgal :   Your sister wants your husband. Has been attracted to him and using a threesome as way to sleep with him and make it sound like its his idea for the two of them to sleep together. Sounds like he may have always wanted to sleep with her too. My husband would not entertain something like this if anyone would have approached him. He would have told me about it instead of hiding it behind my back. They are being sneaky. Don’t be surprised if he doesn’t say anything to you about having a threesome and you find out they eventually hooked up. Your sister wants your husband. 

Post # 54
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Busy bee

I don’t even have a sister and I’m raging. How could someone stoop so low? 

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thebeekeeper :  agreed. I’d blast that shit all over the place and embarrass the hell out of both of them. 

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018 - City, State

Threesomes can be great if all parties are curious and excited, but incest is a hell no from me. It sounds like your sister has some SERIOUS mental health concerns – not because of her sexual stuff, but because of the lifelong flirting/jealousy/attempts to sabotage … has she ever been evaluated for something like Borderline Personality Disorder? (Not trying to armchair diagnose. Just curious.)

 

You and your husband seriously need to re-visit the boundaries in your relationship. Until then, he can knock that shit right off.

Post # 56
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’d get a divorce and then literally never speak to either of them ever again.

Go live your best life without either of these horrible people in it.

Post # 57
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

Ugh, thats fucked up in a million ways… How does a conversation like this even begin? Like did sister one day text him and say “Hey, so I’ve been thinking, wouldnt it be fun if WorriedGal, you and I had sex?! How wild would that be, right?” Like seriously. That convo doesnt happen out of thin air. At minimum, they have been crossing conversational boundaries for a little while, otherwise she wouldnt have been comfortable bringing it up (unless she is just that outrageous).

The fact that he didn’t shut this conversation down the minute it started is apalling. I would not be able to trust him again. And the fact that he is “begging and saying that doing it with someone we know and trust is the safest way.” is so effing gross. What he’s really telling you is that he’d like to fuck your sister but knows that the only way you’d be even potentially, remotely OK with it, is if it was a threesome scenario. I have a sick feeling they have already fucked…

He should have come to YOU with a threesome request. Your sister should have come to YOU if she had this sick fantasy… the two of them should have NOT gone behind your back to try and convince you to get on board. Honest to God, I’d be plastering these messages on social media, screw those sick fucks (not literally! GROSS)

Post # 58
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Busy bee

You don’t trust them ever again, because they don’t deserve it. You have to get out. Your sister is toxic, purposely trying to insert herself into your marriage. Your husband is a weak, disgusting human for giving in. I’m SO sorry this is happening to you, you do not deserve this. You deserve to be loved. 

Post # 59
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Bumble bee

Wow! This is so fucked on so many levels!  I honestly think they’ve already slept together, as much as I hate to say it.  I’m sorry that this is something you’re dealing with.  I honestly couldn’t imagine reading something like that in my husband’s phone, if I had a sister.  I also really can’t believe your sister!  I mean, seriously, what kind of woman does something like this to her own sister????!!!!

Post # 60
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Busy bee

Oh my goodness. I’m so so sorry this is happening to you.

If I was in your situation I would be collecting the evidence, finding a divorce lawyer and a therapist to help me through.

You have my utmost sympathy

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