(Closed) Husband starts his new job tomorrow, but he’s sad

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Don’t stop the job search! Use that as a stepping stone, or at least as an income while he looks for something else. I’m happy though that he found a job!

Post # 4
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

Well hopefully he can show them quickly why he should be moved up.  But just cause he has a job doesn’t mean he has to stop looking at other jobs or even to switching gears a bit, maybe it’ll help if he keeps his eyes open for other opportunities as well.

Post # 5
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3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

In order to be with me, FH moved to my city and had to quit his great job that he loved to work at a tuxedo store making a little over minimum wage. He wasn’t very happy either but he was able to get a new job and now he loves it! Sometimes all you can do is wait. It’s great ya’ll can talk about things like that.

Post # 6
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2821 posts
Sugar bee

If you can, you might want to show up for his lunch break and see how the day is going.

Post # 8
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@sarabell  It can be tough when a guy is feeling down on themselves, it almost seems like a status/ego thing.

I’ve seen my fiance in a similar situation where he was going to a research for a project they were working on with all of the heads of different departments, directors, etc. and he was feeling insecure about his job title, ‘account coordinator’.  I told him ‘you know what, your title doesn’t mean anything, the reason you are there is because they know you work hard and they value your opinion, if they didn’t, you wouldn’t be going’ your title is account coordinator cus you’ve only worked there for a little under 2 years.

I always tell my man how proud i am of how hard he works. I’m sure your hubby is feeling pretty down after all of that job searching too.  One other tip, i’ve read men respond better to praise, aka something they did well “you did a really great job on that” while women respond better to compliments “you look nice” “i like your sweater” – look for ways you can boost his ego!! 

Post # 9
Hostess
18615 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry that he is so stressed.  Sometimes things happen in life and you just have to roll with the punches.  Since he has been there before, hopefully he can move up in the job quickly and get back to where he was before.  Also, it is a bit different this time since he is in a different department probably doing a different job.  I bet it won’t be as bad as he thinks though!

Post # 11
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@canthugallcats:  Im glad that things are going better than originally anticipated! 🙂  

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@sarabell – So glad things aren’t as bad as he thought they’d be.  If this isn’t his dream job, he needs to keep looking for something else while he works hard to be promoted.  That way, he will be at the level he wants in no time.

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