Post # 1
about 7 years ago, a good friend of mine gave me a french poodle (toy) because the mom was not taking care of the puppies and they were going to die or have a hard time surviving. I took the little pup when she was less than 20 days old. She didn’t even have her eyes open yet. I fed her every day until she was able to eat on her own. Months later she got sick and had to be hospitalized and she survived. 7 years later I got married and moved to another city. My Darling Husband doesn’t want my dog :(. He says that we cannot have her here because we live in an aparment but its a toy size puddle and my sister has a german shepperd in her apartment and she makes it work! The thing is that he doesn’t like my dog and the feeling is mutual my dog for some reason despises my husband and can’t see him get near me. However, I miss my dog and I want to have her with me…. She lives with my mom now but they hardly ever pay any attention to her (my mom is always busy) but my husband says that is either him or the dog! he does want to have a dog but just not her! He says that this dog would actually like him.. I don’t know what to do. Do I just get another dog? I just don’t feel like pets are disposable like he does!
Post # 3
I would go back and watch a few episodes of “Me or the Dog”, there are a few episodes where the dog and SO didn’t get along and there are training methods that you can use. Maybe he would be open to having your dog if he thinks there is a way for them to get along. I would not want a dog that didn’t like me either, so I get where he is coming from, but if he loves you, I think he should be able to find some compromise in this situation.
Post # 4
. 🙁 Aww that is tough. Maybe u guys can get a trainer to help them get over their issues. I understand if he doesn’t want to be with a dog that doesn’t let him get close to u but I feel like he could put in some effort to have a relationship with her. So maybe talk about seeking training for them. I think having an apartment is a crappy excuse for not wanting her around. He needs to respect ure wants and needs as well.
Post # 5
It’s kind of mean that your husband wants to force you to get rid of something you love just because the dog doesn’t like him. Have him keep treats in his pocket and whenever he comes home the first thing he should do is throw the dog a treat. That’s like saying “Dad coming home is a good thing.” If the dog won’t let your husband near you you both need to be very stern with with dog and give him a command to stop whatever he’s doing to show his jealousy, jumping, growling whatever. He’s right that the dog does need to be trained, but dogs are also good judges or character. If Darling Husband is just mean to the dog for no reason, why would he like him or trust him around his mama?
I definitely wouldn’t support this man getting another dog, he doesn’t understand the commitment you make when you adopt a pet. Besides, he’s the one who said he doesn’t want a dog in your apartment, why would he want a different dog in there?
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I hope your husband and your dog can come to some sort of truce. I’m guessing your dog hates your husband because he hates her. She’s also feeling territorial about you– but I would think she would be used to him by now? Has your husband always disliked your dog, or did something change? I agree that maybe puppy school can help her bond your husband.
Personally, I value my furbabies, and we come as a set.
Post # 7
My husband would never, ever give me that kind of ultimatum, because I would choose the dog. I couldn’t be with anyone that values my pet so little.
Post # 8
She’s never liked him like EVER.. she is a grumpy dog but she really dislikes him and tehre’s no one else that causes her to behave like that its weird. I think that’s the reason he doesn’t like her, because he likes dogs; but he also says that we have to raise a dog that is OURS and makes the point that she will only be mine because they don’t get along and blah blah blah……
Post # 9
You’ve had this dog for 7 years, I assume your husband KNEW you had a dog. Why all of a sudden does he want you to be without it? What did you do while you were dating?
Post # 10
What if you had a kid from a previous relationship and the kid HATED your new hubby. Like seriously hated him, couldn’t get along because this new guy was taking your attention away from the child. Would your hubby tell you to get rid of the kid because the kid doesn’t like him, so the child will never be “ours”? lol Honestly I think pets are like children, you really can’t just give them away so easily.
It’s not fair that he gave you an ultimatum.
Post # 11
I lived at home with my parents and I have a little sister and she kind of adopted her now (but its my dog u__u) So when we were dating she was mainly in her crate if he visited or our in the backyard it wans’t a big deal because they just didn’t have to be in the same place at the same time but I miss her now 🙁
Post # 13
I think PPs have sort of covered the answer to the real question: training, seek a specialist, and get your husband ON BOARD.
But seriously, Fiance would never have gotten away with that kind of talk with me. I would have been like, okay, well since my dog obviously loves me unconditionally, that makes it a lot easier. I think it’s crappy that he put you in that place on purpose. Also, it seems like something that could cause a great deal of resentment later on down the road. You shouldn’t have to miss your pet. There is really no reason they shouldn’t be able to get along.
Post # 14
Tell your husband he is LUCKY! I am a cat lady and I run a private cat sanctuary with over 40 cats. No they are not all inside the house but a few are. And my FH is allergic to cats! I told him as soon as we started getting serious to NEVER make me chose between him and the cats because he would LOSE. My cats LOVE my FH and I sincerely believe that animals have a “sixth sense” about people! LOADS of people have dogs in apartments, a toy poddle should be highly do-able.
Post # 15
Your husband needs to suck it up. I don’t know how long you’ve been with your guy but I’m assuming you’ve had a longer relationship with your dog than with him. If he felt this strongly about your dog then he should have brought it up before marriage. As it is, springing it on you now that you’re married, touch luck. It’s not fair to a pet you’ve had for seven years and raised from a sickly little puppy to just be abandoned like that.
Poodles are excellent pets and while they definitely do play favorites, they’re smart as a whip and do very well with training. If you all make the effort, I’m confident your husband and the dog can get along in time.
Post # 16
That is a bad position that he put you in. In the future I would not consider getting any more pets with him as he does not value them in the proper way.