(Closed) Husband wants a tattoo, Im dont like

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Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My Fiance recently got his first (large, visible) tattoo & we discussed the content together for a long time. Ultimately, it’s his decision, but he is respectful enough to ensure that I am on board. I plan on getting more tattoos after our wedding & will do the same.

Kind of different, but my younger brother is covered in tattoos & some of them are just so STUPID to me. When I see them I just cringe & think how much he will regret them in the future. But what’s done is done & I love him just the same. 

Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I heart ink art but my husband hates them. However I have 9 now and plan on more.

your future kids will probably think dads cool and the has lived. However he can then tekk them not gmto get one.

its your husbands body, his choice and after a few months you don’t even notice it. It becomes part of you.

Post # 33
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Buzzing bee

As long as it’s nothing offensive (like actually offensive not just “not my preference” sort of offensive) or something bad for his health, I don’t care what my Fiance does with his body.

My tattoos are probably things others wouldn’t understand. But I got them both because I liked them and what they represent. I doubt I’ll regret them because even if the imagery gets dated, they’ll remind me of that time in my life and what they represent.

I don’t think it’s fair to tell him what he can do with his body, and to use children who don’t even exist to try and guilt him out of it. 

Post # 34
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband hated the idea of me getting tattooed I have two now and I wish I had more. The only reason I dont is because I knew it bothered him. I regret not having more. Everyday of my life I look in the mirror and imagine myself with the tattoos I have been wanting and I feel incomplete. In a way I resent him for not being supportive of my body art. The things I want on my body would make me happy. The tattoos I do have give me confidence and pride. It is also the reason I dont have a couple of facial piercings. Something that may be a fad to most people are not neccesarily a fad to everyone. If he is in his twenties or thirties I am sure he would know how he feels about the image and it probably means more to him than you understand if he truly wants it tattoed. I am not saying that he shouldn’t take your feelings into consideration I am just hoping that you might realize that if he decides not to do it, he may later feel resentment of you and of himself for giving into what you want. Ask yourself if that’s worth it. If he truly feels it would make him happy I say as a partner you should support him in the things that give him confidence and love him more for it. You can teach your children that getting tattooed is a personal choice thats made if you are positive it will make you feel good about yourself. Thats what my Dad taught me and I have two siblings. It doesnt mean your kids will want tattoos and not having parents without them doesnt mean they won’t want tattoos so if you are worried about that – don’t. My brother doesnt want any tattoos and me and my sister love body art. Every person is different and you can teach your kids good values if you tell them the story of why you changed your mind and let it go as well as if your husband decides not te get one. Love eachother, support eachother in your endeavors, choose your battles wisely and above all respect eachother.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

His body, his choice.

That said, as a gamer, I wouldn’t get a game character portrait as a tattoo.  Games come and go too quickly, though Diablo at least does have better staying power than most.  What character does he want (Dekim?  Wirt?  Please, please say it’s Wirt…)?

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

bookworm88 :  Totally agree. You can tell him how you feel, but it IS his body to tattoo if he wants to. 

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

im sorry but you have no say at all in his body… this is as bad as those people thats partner bullies them to lose weight to be ‘sexy’ like when they met, his body is his body and your view of his body is entirely YOUR problem

your argument of having kids some day makes no sense either, tattoos dont effect parenting skills undecided I almost garantee you if your husband plays those games your kids will aswell when they’re older and they’ll think the tattoo is cool… as long as its not obsene such as a graphic sexual tattoo then there is no reason kids couldnt see it

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Polyphemus :  lots of my friends have gamer tattoos and I get confused because im not a gamer and never have been at all but I assume they become retro over time and adapt into mainstream – its not like anyone would look confused at a mario, sonic, pacman, donkey kong, street fighter etc… tattoo and go whats that weather they play or not

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

This topic is from 4 years ago…I would hope they figured out getting vs not getting it by now.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee

I don’t think you have any say at all unless you are short on money and he wants to spend hundreds of dollars on a tattoo. 

 

Post # 41
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Bumble bee

I was going to say that it’s his body so his choice. But equally, I’m not convinced I’d have dated a grown man who’s just got a video game character tattooed on him because I view it as poor judgement. I’d have masses of reservations if my Darling Husband came back and suddenly decided he wanted piercings and tattoos because they just don’t do it for me. And I get where you’re coming from with converns about a knife wielding daemon.

Tough call. 

Id be asking a couple of questions:

1. How long has he wanted a tattoo? How long has he wanted this specific tattoo?

2. Would he be willing to compromise on location or image given your concerns? 

 

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