- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
A little over a year ago, I got a job at an office about 10-15 minutes from home, working 8-5.
My husband works 2nd shift, and doesn’t leave for work until 1:45pm.
I usually take my hour long lunch break starting at 11:30 or 12:30.
Probably once a month or so, my husband texts me asking me to come home from work on my break so we can have “lunch sex.”
It. Drives. Me. Nuts.
First of all, let’s say it takes me 15 minutes each way. That’s half an hour – half of my break. That leaves me 30 minutes to get “in the mood,” have sex, clean up, get dressed, scarf down some food and go back to work. Real sexy. NOT.
And I’m sorry, but I am NOT thinking about sex at work. We’re usually pretty busy and hectic. The phones are ringing off the hook, customers are picking up cars, our call screen is lighting up, haulers are dropping off cars, etc, etc. When I get to clock out, I want to eat my food, read my book, and go spend a few minutes sitting in my car staring at the trees and listening to the birds chirp. I need some down time.
When my hubs first starting requesting lunch sex, I gave him flat out nos. I relented a few times but it annoyed me so much each time. Now I’ve resorted to excuses to say no because he doesn’t get it – I’ll tell him I’m only taking a half hour lunch, that I’m picking up food for the office, stuff like that. Today when he asked me to come home, I told him flat out that I don’t like lunch sex because I hate being rushed and I don’t like not being able to cuddle/talk to him before/after.
He never returned my texts and I think he’s hurt and/or mad.
I mean, I’ll admit we only have sex maybe once or twice a week because our schedules clash (I go to bed at 11pm, wake up at 6:30. He gets home at midnight and goes to bed at, like, 4am). So weekends are really our only option.
I’m certainly not upset about our sex life. Sure, there are some nights I wish we could be together but he’s at work, so oh well. It’s not the end of the world. But to him I feel like he needs to MAKE time for sex, no matter how fast/inconvenient/unsexy it is.
Sure, a quickie is okay every so often (like one time I was late for a doctors appt because we both decided to do it while I was getting ready to leave lol) but when he wants quickies all the time it makes me feel . . . . cheap???
Am I wrong for feeling this way? Weird? Ungrateful? Or…..what?