(Closed) Husband wants to match at a wedding- not ours. Odd?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
  • poll: Matching couples odd?
    Yes : (17 votes)
    21 %
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    79 %
  • Post # 2
    287 posts
    Helper bee

    Aw, I think it’s cute. It’s not like he’s buying a whole suit in the same colour.

    Post # 3
    6773 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I don’t think there’s a need to match exactly..it’s not prom.  But a little bit seems reasonable to me and will look nicer if anyone photographs you together.  It’s just coordination – a tie with a cerulean stripe or two among the others wouldn’t go amiss.  It’s not like he wants to wear the vest, bowtie, hankie, suspenders, socks, buttonhole…

    Post # 4
    9454 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    theatrejulia:  makes me think of prom..

    you should co-ordinate, not match. 🙂  Since you’ve been to design school, it sounds like you know the answer already haha.

    Post # 5
    236 posts
    Helper bee

    My SO and I have matchled his tie to my dress when we have gone to a few weddings, we don’t do it every time. I have a friends who match their husbands for every wedding and others who don’t, I don’t find it strange either way. 



    Post # 6
    2317 posts
    Buzzing bee

    the only piece of clothing that is actually matching is the tie so I dont think that you will look like salt and pepper shakers.  If you are really worried ask him to find a tie that complements rather than matching.  Maybe a different shade of blue or mostly another color with a small amount of matching blue.  If you are still bothered look on the bright side, you may get a chance to take some great pics that are worthy for displaying  since your looks coordinate.  

    Post # 7
    1430 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I like to match sometimes with Fiance. Or wear accessories that will match his shirt so it looks like we “go” together. 

    Post # 8
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee

    It’s just a matching tie. I don’t think anyone will bat an eye.

    Post # 9
    1633 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Well as Debra Messing said in The Wedding Date, “Matching is fine, it’s matchy-matchy you want to look out for.” 😄

    I don’t think my SO and I have ever purposefully coordinated when going somewhere. On occasion we’ve realized after getting dressed that we were wearing the same color shirt or his tie matched my dress and we felt a little silly. I think on the one hand your Darling Husband may be overthinking things a little if he thinks matching is necessary. But if you humor him on this, you won’t look ridiculous. And blue is a pretty standard color in almost any shade. It’s reasonable that you’d have a blue go-to dress and he a blue go-to tie, so I don’t think people will give it a second thought. And I don’t think people are going to equate his pants with your shoes at all.

    Post # 10
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    My husband and I match on accident sometimes. Actually a lot of times both at formal and not formal events. We’ll be getting ready to go out to dinner and will be getting ready in separate bathrooms and when we finally walk out one of us will be like “you can’t wear green, I’m wearing green!” Neither of is usually ends up changinf because we don’t care that much. He has matched his tie to my dress at a couple of more formal events. I don’t think it matters either way. 

    Post # 11
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We have matched at a couple weddings but it has only been his tie matching or complimenting my dress color. Every wedding I have been The couples all loom like they go together. I don’t think it really matters one way or the other, but I don’t think it is weird one way or the other. 

    Post # 12
    1310 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Seems a little odd, but if he really wants to, no harm no foul, right?

    Post # 14
    1387 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Darling Husband and I always co-ordinate, but do not match. 

    Post # 15
    421 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    First time Fiance told me he wanted to match when we were going somewhere, I thought it was weird. Now I think it’s kinda cute and I like to try to match/coordinate when possible.

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