- 5 years ago
My husband has been working weekends at Tim Hortons for the past 7 years. It gave him some extra income to pay phone bill, insurance, etc and to have some extra cash on hand during his high school and college years. He graduated college a year ago and has been unable to find work in his field. We got married in march and are hoping to soon be able to move out of his parents house. Well, my husband finally found a job through his brother who gave him the heads up that the company he works for is hiring. It’s a factory job loading tires and rims for Toyota, they do other things as well but since he’s only been there a day that’s all he’s done so far. He was called in unexpectedly and asked to work the same day that they told him they weren’t sure when they would need him(they use a hiring agency) and asked if he would be able to start that night, he said yes but then half an hour later he got so upset that he was called in like that and just started complaining about how he hated that it wasn’t a normal hiring process, he didn’t have to do an interview, he wasn’t given an “official” start date, etc. Well, after he got home from his first shift he just started crying and saying that he hates factory work in general, and was giving a strong impression that he wants to quit, he said he would give it a week but so far he’s amassed such a negative view of the job that I’m afraid he’s going to just give up without actually trying to stick to the job.
He’s never worked a real job before. He worked at his mom’s factory a couple of summers but always gave up after a month or two because he was getting bad back pain from the tables being too low. But those jobs were only temporary summer jobs anyway and weren’t going to stick. Well, the job he’s at right now he’s considered a temp worker, but if they like his work they will keep him on permanently, and after a couple months of permanent, he gets a wage increase from $13/hr, to $19/hr which would help IMMENSELY to get us out of here and started, it’s also an extremely hard wage to find around here and considering the labour is not too intense (he lifts things but they aren’t usually more then 20-35lbs) the wage is amazing especially since he doesn’t want to find a job where he has to deal with customers.
I don’t know what to do. I wish I could tell him that if he doesn’t want to work there he doesn’t have too, and he can just go back to working at tim hortons weekends, and that we’ll find something else but we just can’t afford to do that anymore. We NEED to have a stable source of income, I try and sell on ebay and work odd jobs online but I’m a full time student and I don’t think it’s fair if I’m doing both school and full time work while he sits at home playing games again like he did before he got this job while he “looks” for a job in his field. He wasn’t serious about looking for a job, and would only browse lightly maybe 2-3 times a month for a job and the rest of the time he isn’t sleeping or working the weekend at tim’s he was playing video games.
His whole life has been very easy for him in terms of him having to not work. His mom lets him reside at home rent free because she thinks that receiving help from her kids should NOT happen and refuses any money and refuses to charge her kids money, so he doesn’t need to worry about rent, nor about food since his mom always cooked for him. All he needs to worry about are cell phone bill, car insurance, car maintnence, and anything else he wants to use his money on. He’s a very spoiled child, and I need him to realize that working is not easy, and you aren’t always going to like it, but that’s it’s a necessary part of living and unless he wants to stay in his parents basement for the rest of his life alone then he needs to start compromising.
I don’t want to be harsh to him, but he is such a debbie downer that I honestly wanted to punch him in the face when he got so upset when we got home after ordering a pair of prescription safety’s that he was forced to park in the street because his parents had something coming and needed the driveway free that he slammed the car door, and just started spouting curse after curse, just because he had to park in the street which is only a few more feet! He only see’s the bad in things, he’s the definition of a pessemistic person. I’m a very optimistic person, and I try to show him that what he’s going through right now is irrational, but no matter what I do, he goes right back to the same depressing thoughts about work, and then gets upset and starts his pity party and it’s really wearing me down.
Sorry for this massive post, and I really doubt anyone will really read through the whole thing but I guess I just needed somewhere to rant. I wish I could make him understand that he has an amazing good life right now, and he has nothing to complain about. I’ve allowed him the past year since he graduated college to let him find a job in his field without pushing him to find just any job, and the majority of that time he spent playing games. I think it’s fair that I ask him now to stay at this job. He’s had his massive vacation, and now it’s time to become an adult and learn that working sucks when you hate your job, but it sucks even more when make things hard on yourself by making the job harder and more depressing. He wants a job in his field, and I really hope he gets a break in the form of a job offer, but right now we don’t have the luxury to just wait around and wait possibly another year or two to get one.
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