(Closed) Husband will not defend me against his family.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 18
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Busy Beekeeper

I’d rather be a dramatic bitch, that a doormat in law. WW 3 would have broken out if my SIL came into my bedroom like that.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@cgrantham12:  If it is a big issue to you, it needs to be addressed whether he agrees it is a big issue or not. There are things I’ve gotten mad about in the past that Fiance thought were completely silly, but he still worked with me to find a compromise. If it’s bothering you then that’s all that matters. No one can take away the legitimacy of your feelings.

Post # 20
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2006

My daughter is going through this, only much worse!!  It started as a “dirty house”, then, as a house that needed to be rearranged by his sis, then, when she was expecting their first baby…she was a “ho” and it was “not his baby”.  Then, when the baby was born, thirteen members of his family paraded through the hospital room where the new parents and baby were. (not one or two at a time)  Then, she insulted the baby by saying she had a unibrow, she was too white, etc.  NOW, after 5 years, they are expecting another child (a boy).  Instead of being happy, “sis” is ripping it up again; saying this isn’t his.  PLEASE!!  I LOVE YOU, SON-in-LAW….PLEASE TAKE UP FOR MY DAUGHTER!!  But, alas, you won’t.  You never do.  So, to all of you out there who wonder where this is going?  RUN!!!!  RUN!!!!  RUN!!!!  I’m begging them to move, at least, 200 miles away.  I would miss them all like crazy, but they would finally have a life of their own.  The only time he has been offended is when his sis started saying he didn’t love his mom since he met my daughter.  Seriously?

 

Post # 21
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Wannabee

cgrantham12 :  First of all, yes, you should let it go that she asked if you clean your litter box. Who cares. She wasn’t saying your whole house was dirty, in fact, if that’s all she could find wrong, you must keep a very clean house. Let it go. 

Second, yes, your bedroom is your personal space to you. Apparently his mom and sister babies him and cleaned his bedroom for him. But, he is married now and doesn’t understand your feeling of having a “personal, private” space. He doesn’t get it. So, you have to be the one to set the boundaries. Do it quietly, diplomatically and very nicely. Take one aside and whisper if you have to but say, hey, I appreciate your help but I’ll clean my own bedroom. Your more than welcome to help anywhere else but, shhhhhh, we have personal things in our room. That will shit her up and get her out if your room. I honestly, you just g Ave to train some people on what should be common courtesy, unspoken etiquette. Have fun with that bunch. Looks like you may have a little training to do. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee

 luann : Did you seriously create an account just to revive a zombie thread?

Out of curiosity, how did you even find it?

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