(Closed) Husband Woes

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’d talk to him about why he said he WOULD call you (was he listening when he said OK? or just bobbing his head along and saying “ok dear” but not really meaning it?) and what his issue was with giving you a call or a text just to say hi.

That being said, when i go out of town, calling my husband to check in on him isnt’ something i always remember to do. I’m busy! Just give him the benefit of the doubt before you chew him a new one. A text isn’t hard, ya know? And it sounds like he may have been having an ego-fest or something if he was all “i’m not calling her! bah ha ha!” about it. 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow, I’m glad my man would never do that! I would kill him!

I’m so sorry that happend. I really can’t give advice bc I’ve never been in that situation. He’d want to talk to me just as much as I want to talk to him.  But I would strangle him if he EVER did that.  That not only breaks his promise to you but is extremly inconsiderate and very selfish.

I hope everything works out alright.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’d be a bit annoyed, if not totally pissed.  My Fiance and I go out of town without each other frequently enough.  We’ve developed a rule similar to that of your friends with their boyfriends- just call once a day, no need for a full convo, just check in.  He has forgotten and I’ve gotten annoyed but he’s usually apologetic so it doesn’t get far, its just an innocent brain lapse (lol). 

I bet you this is just a case of honest miscommunication, I doubt he meant any harm.  However, I would talk to him and establish for the future, that he has to call to make sure you know he’s arrived safely and when he’s leaving.  I’m sure it will work out much better next time!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Um that sucks A LOT. I would NOT be happy about that. I’m certainly not a controlling girlfriend and I’m not demanding and I don’t expect his world to revolve around me, but come on!!! You are his family. He loves you. Would it kill him to call you once a day for 30 seconds? No. I think you are totally in the right to talk with him about this. Of course he wants time with his buddies and is entitled to some guy time – but really, a 6 day bachelor party and NOT calling you? Even the groom to be was talking with his girl. If the other guys were doing it, why wasn’t yours?

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Man that does suck. I can’t imagine not talking to hubs for that long, we usually text throughout the day while we’re both working and then spend most of our nights together too.  I agree with the other posters, find out where the miscommunication was and make sure he realizes what he is agreeing to next time so this doesn’t happen again

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

You could always teach by example and not be home when he gets there and not answer your cell phone. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

What do you usually do when he goes away?

 

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

LOL @troubled….

Yeah i think this warrants a full sit down “wtf were you thinking? Why were you so rude to me by not calling?” conversation. Blatantly choosing not to call me would annoy me. I mean, WHY?!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

No offense but my first initial reaction was WTF!?!  I can understand he’s on the man getaway and all but you’re his wife.  It’s just common decency to give you a call and let you know he arrived safely.  Not to mention, wouldn’t he just want to call and say hi?

Miscommunication or not, I’d be hurt and pissed and would definitely have a chat with him.  How would he feel if the shoe was on the other foot?

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

ditto @stephinPA – Fiance and I spend about 50% of the year apart for work, and he calls me 5-6 times a day, and we text off and on all day.

I can’t imagine him not texting or calling me at a bachelor party.  I think it is unacceptable.  Even if they had a lame 30 second rule, I dare my Fiance not to call me.  LOL.  They are adults.

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