(Closed) Husband working at a toxic place. Is there anyway I can be of help?

posted 4 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The only thing you can do is encourage him to find another job. I grew to hate the management at my last job, but there was nothing my H could do about it except tell me to find another job. When I’d finally had enough, I did.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

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newlywednewbie:  wait he’s an attorney?? I’m quite sure he can tell that what they are doing isnt legal with a degree of his nature I would of been gone yesterday, do you guys have any savings to live off until he finds something

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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Soccergirl0809:  seriously! I’m failing to understand how an attorney is being victimized/tricked in the workplace. Until the OP threw that tidbit in, I assumed her husband was working an unskilled, entry level job 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would advise him to start looking for another job. There’s no reason that the only two choices need to be quit or be unemployed. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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WestCoastV:  Just because you’ve graduated law school doesn’t mean you’re an expert in every kind of law. Lawyers specialize, and he may not know a ton about labor/employment law. Also, it’s very possible that they’re screwing him in totally legal ways. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I would look into labor laws where you live and where he works.

A former company I worked for would have been so screwed if they tried to require 24 hour shifts, as it went against all regulations for that.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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newlywednewbie:  I remember your last thread and I thought everyone just needed time to come around to the new guy but this is completely terrible.

I feel so bad for your poor husband. I have never been in a situation like this but I do think I would keep encouraging him to quit and let him know that although I enjoy being spoiled, I would rather he isn’t miserable. Normally I would not quit before having another job lined up but it sounds like you guys would still be okay financially and this work environment just doesn’t seem healthy at all.

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Helper bee

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Mrs. Honeybee:  this is where research comes in handy and reaching out to fellow law school friends you never know who or what may be able to help you with.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

OP I think you need to step back and let your husband figure out on his own if he wants to stay, quit, or whatever. You posted about his work issues just a few weeks ago, some of which stemmed from him missing a colleague’s going away party and also having perks that others don’t have (like an office). While his workplace sounds awful, he needs to be aware of the different things that influence whether people like him or not. That’s an important life skill because we may not always be able to control our circumstances but we can control the image we broadcast to those around us. And your husband needs to decide on his own because it actually sounds like he lets people walk all over him (most people would have flown the old middle-finger flag at the first mention of a 24-hour shift with no extra pay) and now is as good a time as any to learn how to stand up for himself.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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newlywednewbie:  Do you live in an area devoid of legal work for him to get another job?  My Darling Husband is a lawyer too, and I know it’s hard to break into the field in a new area, but this is pretty sh*tty, and some of it sounds illegal to me.  There’s no way I’d stay in a job like this, and I’d be telling Darling Husband to quit every single day.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

What kind of attorney works 24 hour shifts??

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

Like PP, I would encourage him to find a job that’s a better fit. It’s not quitting; it’s trying to progress in your profession. There is too much drama within the structure in that place.

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