Post # 1
Do any of you bees have husbands who go out of town to work?
Mine doesn’t but an opportunity came up and he left about an hour ago for 10-14 days. I am having a hard time with it. I’ve been feeling so sad all day and keep crying. I know he feels bad but it is a good opportunity and then he’ll be able to have some time off for the holidays.
Now we have spent time apart, a few days here and there and I’ve never had a problem with that. Two weeks just seems so long. Were we live we have only been for 2 years, so we don’t have a lot of people around and being this time of year everyones schedules are so busy.
So my question is what do you bees do to occupy your time and get through not having your husband home?
Post # 3
My husband workd out of town for time to time too. We are in a similar situation, where we have only lived in our city for 2 years. He averages 7 days to 14 days out of town per month, and honestly, I embrace my alone time. I was super independant, and lived on my own before we moved in together, and I love havingt he freedom to eat what I want, when I want, lay around all day, watch crappy movies he would never watch, etc.
If I want social interaction, I call someone up and invite them out to lunch, or head to an exercise class or something, but honestly, I usually take full advantage of time by myself, and rarely find myself needing anyone elses company when he is gone!
Post # 4
I recently quit a job where I was the one out of town for 2 weeks. It sucked. I cried for basically the first week that I was gone, and a couple days before I left too.
Obviously try to talk to him as much as possible. And keeping in touch with anyone seems to help, even if it’s just talking about random pointless stuff. Oh…and what really helped was having a date planned for when you’re together again so you have something to look forward to and it helps you realize that it IS going to end.
I don’t really have any other advice. But if you want to chat then message me! 🙂
Post # 5
Dh has been working up north (Fort Mac, AB area) for 2 years now. His shifts change depending on the job. The worst one was 24 days on 4 days off. REALLY sucked. Now he’s doing 14 on 7 off.
It took a while to get used to. I was so used to him being home every night. But you get used to cooking for yourself, entertaining yourself, etc… Now its just normal to me and I kind of like my alone time. I can do what I want, when I want. I dont have to figure out both our schedules.
To keep occupied I bake, did some scrapbooking of our wedding and honeymoon, get together with friends, shop :), see family (both our families live here). But like Ms. Mini said, I like being by myself and spend most of his time away alone.
We also got a dog which helps a lot! At least I have someone to talk to and I feel a bit safer with her in the house.
Post # 6
My DH works out of town every Monday-Thursday of every week. In all honesty, I don’t mind it too much. You quickly get used to it, enjoy taking advantage of the alone time for long baths, curling up with a book, eating crappy food, or watching girly TV/movies. It also make you relish the time you are together that much more.
DH and I do make a point to talk on the phone pretty much every night, even if it is only for 5 minutes.
Post # 7
My fiance travels out of town for his job Monday through Friday, and I work Tuesday through Saturday till 8pm sooo… we see each other for a few hours Fri & Sat night and Sundays. And that’s about it.
It’s tough. Sometimes it definitely feels like we’re engaged but not really in a relationship. We don’t talk on the phone much either, so that’s probably part of the problem. We just don’t have much to talk about during the week I guess? He gets a ‘home’ week every 8 weeks, and that’s always nice.
ETA: Much like KMM, we also do just fine with it to be honest. I have a shop and many hobbies, and he’s always out entertaining the guys in the market he visits. It works 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks ladies, I think the worst will be going to bed alone. I know tomorrow it will be better as I’ll have work and gym etc. so I won’t be sitting at home alone all day, a few hours in the evening isn’t too bad.
I guess by the time I get the house ready for Christmas and do my Christmas shopping my time will be filled.