Husband's 30th birthday and first father's day dilemna

posted 4 months ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I am such a stikler about that dates and would much prefer to give it to him on his actualy birthday, but since other people have contributed to this gift, I think it’s only appropriate to let them celebrate with you. Also, I would be nervous about the baby coming too early and then not being able to fully celebrate on his birthday anyway ..it would be my luck too haha.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

carebear15 :  you are giving him a freaking motorbike. He will be overjoyed even if it is a week early. If people have pitched in with time and money I get them wanting to see him receive it. I would go a week early and give him the smaller things on his actual birthday/ father’s day x

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would not give it to him at or just before a party with drinking involved unless he’s an experienced biker who can say no to taking it out if he’s had a few. Stick to your original plan and I think the video sounds nice.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Except she’ll be 38 weeks thst weekend so the baby can’t wear the onesie quite yet. But a biker onesie shower gift would be cute, too.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

carebear15 :  if you wanted to do it it in private then you should have paid and planned the whole gift yourself. As it stands, other people put time and money into the gift and you should do it at a time that also allows their contribution to be recognised.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

carebear15 :  well right now he has paid $300 toward it and contributed time by adding parts.  Plus your dad ‘contributed a lot of money’ so it isn’t solely a gift from you and as such I don’t think you get to make it special for YOU by gifting it to him when you are alone.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

carebear15 :  “I did pay for it all myself”

well you can’t say you paid for it all and then admit your BIL AND you father helped you, it paints a false representation of the story.  If you are still ‘paying your BIL back’ then he absolutely helped you pull off this gift and therefore don’t you think you’re husband would want him to be there in the moment?

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Your husband, your gift, your choice.  I think the video was a nice offer.  

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

carebear15 :  well you’re the one who said your BIL added $300 and your dad contributed ‘a lot’ I didn’t assume or make that up, it was your information, why are you now saying differently?

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