Post # 1
So it’s my husband’s birthday on Wednesday, and it’ll be our first married birthday together. Of course, I’m all excited about it and what not. He has tons of work to do, doesn’t want to celebrate, says we’ll celebrate on the weekend. Fair enough. I told him I’d bake him a cake anyway and we can do something special Friday or Saturday.
Now his parents are coming down this weekend and want to do something. No problem. I can still just make a cake on his birthday.
Now his Mom is mailing him a cake for Wednesday. I’m a little upset, because, well, I’m the wife! I want to do something for him, not just tag along to his parent’s celebration.
Should I still make him a cake? He’s trying to lose weight…
Post # 4
You could make him a bday cupcake? Still special, smaller & better temptation to eat the entire cupcake rather than an entire cake!
Post # 5
Haha, but what will I do with the rest of the batch? Eat them myself? 🙂
Am I silly for being upset that his mom is baking him a cake?
Post # 6
I don’t think it’s silly; I get where you’re coming from. I’m sure she’s got good intentions though, and you can never have too much cake!
Post # 7
Um hello birthday sex!
hehe jk What if you made him a fantastic breakfast?
Post # 8
Make him birthday strawberry “shortcake” made with angel food cake, sliced strawberries, and fat free cool whip. It looks like it has a million calories and it took a lot of effort, but it doesn’t and it doesn’t! LoL
I would still do a cake (or something along those lines) from you, even if his mom is sending a cake. Whatever you decide to do will be special to him because it’s coming from his new wife and (home)made with love. 🙂
ETA: @SoontobeMrsA: Um hello birthday sex!
LOL! Good thinking.
Post # 9
I second the breakfast idea! better yet, cake for breakfast?
Post # 10
Yes and no to the silly question. It’s nice that his mum wants to mail him a cake, but I understand why you feel that she is overstepping your territory. I’m sure that she hasn’t even thought of it that way at all and has forgotten what it is like in the first few years when you are super excited to take over all of these wifely duties. She is probably having a hard time letting go of her motherly duties.
Why don’t you make him breakfast in bed. Does he like to snack when he works? Could you make his favourite snack? Or favourite meal with lots of leftovers so he can enjoy it through the week?
ETA: I didn’t mean that your question was silly, but you asked “Am I being silly”.
Post # 11
Update: The package came. It had boxers in it. :-/ I should be the one to buy him boxers….
I know she’s just trying to be sweet (and we get along great). We’re both in grad school, so I think she’s being even more helpful than she would otherwise, wanting to send care packages and what not. But I do kinda wonder when she’ll decide its okay to stop. I mean, I know she probably just doesn’t want to “cut her son off” but I mean…I can take it from here.
Post # 12
I say make him the cake! You can make him Angel food cake! It’s healthy and he will love it!
When we were on speaking terms with Mother-In-Law, she would do the same, constantly sending cookies on his bday and valentines day ( MY Darling Husband LOVESSSSS cookies). It drove me nuts, but I didn’t say much. Her cookies were terrible anyways so it just made me try harder to make awesome cookies for him too.
Post # 13
er. The boxers are kinda weird.
Happy Birthday to your husband!
Next year casually mention to Mother-In-Law way before that you are baking him a cake.
Post # 14
I’d make him dinner or one of his favorite foods instead? I don’t think I’d bring up the MIL’s gestures, just kill it with kindness and giggle about his “birthday boxers from mom” with him. and eat some free cake!
Post # 15
Yeah I think that the boxers from Mother-In-Law are kinda odd. Can you cook? What about making his fave dinner?
Post # 16
@jedeve: Ugh, don’t get me started on the whole Mother-In-Law buying Darling Husband boxers thing. I mean, I understand he’s your son, but that is now inappropriate. We can take care of his underwear needs, thank you very much!