(Closed) Husbands brother and wife called their son the name we wanted

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Is it for a brother to choose same baby name that other brother had already chose?

    Yes - fine whoever has the child first should have the name

    No- if the name had clearly been stated they should have picked another name

    Both brothers can call their children the same name regardless

  • Post # 32
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    @Reedyd:  I think you have every right to be upset.  But wait, because you might nto ever even have a boy or you might end up liking another name now that this one has been taken. 

    If you have a son and want to name him James Edward, I think that’s still a common enough name to do that.  Plus, you can always call THEIR kid Jimmy, even if they don’t like it.  🙂 lol

    Post # 33
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    I get being upset about this at first, but seriously, you name your kid what you want….we have 7 Jacks, 4 Duanes, and oddly enough 2 Virgils…..there’s billions of people on this Earth and only so many names.  Let it go, it’s still your name.

    Post # 34
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

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    @Nona99:  This. I say still use it!!

    Post # 35
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    Busy bee

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    @Mrs. Doily: +1, especially to seeing both sides. I would be upset by this, but if it’s the name you really want, then use it anyway. 

    Post # 36
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

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    @AlwaysSunny:  +1. This whole name dibs thing seems so silly to me.

    Post # 37
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think you should still use it, what about nicknames? Between my sister and I, we are very close like best friends, she knows exactly what names my husband and I love for the future. Never in a million years would she pick any of those names without talking to me about it first, so I definitely see where you’re coming from. It’s not about calling dibs, more like my husband and I are very excited for the future and I share with my sister, who is like my best friend, not to call dibs but to share with her. But, every family dynamic is different, obviously. 

    Post # 38
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I think people who steal names are selfish and terrible people.  The end.  🙂

     

     

    but I guess you’re going to eventually be the bigger person and come up with another name.  (like you have a choice)  the same name thing is weird to me.

    Post # 39
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Seeeee I totally think you can call dibs, SORTA. You can’t get upset with them for using the name, BUT they can’t get upset with you for using it either — meaning I think if you really like it you should use it anyway and who cares if the kids have the same name!!

     

    Post # 40
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

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    @autumnmountainbride:  I totally agree with you!

     

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    @Reedyd:  I cant imagine how this makes you feel! For this very fact we kept our name secret from the world until she was born! Even before we were pregnant because we knew people would steal our name!!! Two days after she was born a lady that I knew would steal her name said “gosh if I knew that name before I name lillian I would have named her that”. Like seriously who says that????

     

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I agree that it’s an a-hole thing for them to do if they knew your name choice, but I also don’t agree with name dibs especially with this being such a common name. If you were pregnant, it would be a different story but it isn’t fair to ask them to not use a name that they love if you very well may never have occasion to use the name.

    One of my coworkers was upset that her boyfriends cousin named his kid her name that she’d picked out…Jackson, are you serious? 

    Post # 42
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I know you can’t dibs a name, but i think its stupid and ridiculous that they picked your name.

    Post # 43
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    +1 to PP on calling “dibs” 

    I have a friend who recently had a baby and when they found out they were having a girl they chose the name they wanted and turns out the middle name was the same middle name her SIL wanted for her “future” daughter. Her SIL isn’t even trying to conceive and told my friend she better not choose that name because she wanted it. My friend was upset and considered changing the name which is kinda silly to me. She ended up keeping what she wanted and the SIL got upset but she got over it.

    You should name YOUR child what you want. It shouldn’t matter if anyone else has the same name. If you like it you like it and it doesn’t matter what anyone else’s opinion is. In my family we have 2 boys named Ethan and we made it work by calling one by Ethan and the other by his middle name. 

    Post # 44
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Just name your kid what you want and don’t worry about other people’s kids? Considering how common that name is, just do it if you have a boy. It’s not that big a deal, your family will know whose kid is who.

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    James is a super common name and with the potential of lots of nicknames. Go ahead and use it. Chances are your SIL’s will be Jamie and you’ll be Jim (or whatever) anyways.

    Post # 46
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It was insensitive of them. However. If you are really, really set on the name, consider naming your kid that anyway and going with a nickname. My husband and his cousin (his mom’s sister’s son) share a name — let’s say “Robert.” My husband (born first) goes by “Rob” and his cousin goes by “Bobby.” And YES, my mother-in-law rolls her eyes when she tells that story, so it is a little weird to give the same name…but it’s also not like her sister had discussed wanting to use that name before my husband was born, as you did.

     

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