(Closed) Husband’s Cousin STB Wife

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Tell her you’re busy! You have plans, you know, that kind of stuff =]

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ok first, having panic attacks doesn’t make you a crazy person. My mother has anxiety/panic disorder and this really struck a cord with me. I am not trying to force everyone to be more PC, but you should have just left that part out, the other stuff she’s done speaks to her being crazy anyways!

Now, just tell her you’re busy and hopefully she’ll eventually stop asking!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Thanks, I know it wasn’t meant to be offensive 🙂

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

If you are forced to interact with her, then tell her in advance you will be staying for only a certain time frame. Like, you will come over Saturday afternoon and can stay from 2 to 5, and then you have an appointment. It sounds like you’re having a hard time saying no to this woman—just know your boundaries and stick to them. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Forgive me, but I don’t see what the problem is.  If you don’t mind helping her, then help her!  You are the one driving, so you will be in control of when you leave – just head over for a Saturday afternoon or something.  There is absolutely no reason for it to be so time consuming that it would actually interfere with “enjoying your marriage.” 

Also, I have been to several weddings/events that were “potluck” and they were awesome!!  You get a bunch of different styles, etc. 

 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Maybe she feels nervous around you, hence all the talking.  She may sense that people think she’s a little on the nutty side so she is trying to be interesting and engaging so you will like her. I think you should take it as a compliment that she wants your help and like Chelseamorning said just set boundaries on how long and when you two meet up.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I would just say exactly what you said to her. I am sorry but i just got done planning my wedding and just got married i dont mind helping you but i cant not help you as much as I would like. basically say i will pitch in but not Plan.

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