Husband's emotional affair – long

posted 9 months ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

undercover719 :  Please do yourself a favor and get a divorce and leave him , He is a womanizer and there isn’t anything that can be done. He is trying to manipulate you into thinking that talking to these women aren’t a big deal but they are!!!! You deserve so much better and he just is a pure selfish douche. So sorry 🙁 

Post # 77
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1504 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Bee, bee, bee….is he for real? This went on for YEARS.  With literally hundreds of women (101 contacts on dating profile). I haven’t finished reading all 6 pages but you’ve been screened for STIs right? 

Please leave. Call me a prophet but it’s just going to be more of the same if you stayed for another second. 

Post # 78
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

DrAtkins :  DrAtkins :  adultery is against the UCMJ but it’s really hard to prove a case and since he’s a reservist there isn’t really any reason for her to go that route. You need evidence of him actually having intercourse with another individual – photos or videos. Text messages, emails, etc. are not considered proof. Plus the typical punishment can range from getting knocked down in paygrade to getting kicked out, neither of which would really affect his military career as a reservist except he would have a dishonorable discharge on his record. But he already has a full time job so it’s not his main job, his main source of income or likely to affect future job prospects as much. It would be more headache for her to even try to go that route than it would be worth.

Post # 79
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

undercover719 :  my gosh, I am so sorry for everything you are going through. You are dealing with a lot right now – I cannot imagine how hurt, confused, angry, you must be feeling! It’s hard to accept that someone we have loved for so long has changed ao drastically into someone we don’t know anymore but bee, it seems like that’s what has happened with your husband. 

 

I think you are doing all of the right things. Continue having no continue and move forward with divorce. You are worth more than he deserves. Divorcing him will free you up to focus on the things that are important to YOU: your daughter, your health, your family, your friends, etc. It’s time for YOU to do what is best for YOU. You have a lot of support here and it seems like your daughter is supportive too. Hugs, bee!

Post # 80
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1435 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

undercover719 :  Don’t gaslight yourself. Who goes ALL the way to Spain and gets no sex? Seriously.

Post # 81
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1435 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

Okay. If they have a daughter who graduated, I’m going to go out on a limb and say he probably has some other kids by other women by now. You just have to keep digging. This guy sounds like he was chasing every woman in the world BUT his wife. Now he cares so much about her?

Please.

Post # 82
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Don’t get back with him… what he did to you in beyond horrible

Post # 83
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65 posts
Worker bee

undercover719 :  I read this whole thing, but I only needed to read a fraction to know that you gave him way too many chances.  Don’t let him back in your life.  Buddy apparently gets off on the thrill of the chase.

It makes me really sad that you even need to write this post for advice.  Don’t you know you’re worth more than this treatment? 

Post # 84
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212 posts
Helper bee

There is a 0% chance that this man is anything other than scum. IMO, you are FAR too kind and far too forgiving. Honestly, it would have been over once I found out my other half WENT TO FREAKING EUROPE without telling me. hellllllll no. That in itself is beyond telling. Paired with all of the “emotional” (and obviously physical) cheating and all of the lies…that’s just a giant pile of NOPE.

So sorry you are dealing with this but you need to cut this dead weight from your life and realize your worth. <3

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