(Closed) Husbands Ex with a B-I-G mouth

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@kris325:  Honestly, it isn’t YOUR ISSUE.  It belongs to your Husband.

HE is the one who has to tell her in no uncertain terms to back off.

HE is the one who has to set / make the boundary very very clear to her.

Other than that, there isn’t much else to be done than IGNORE her.

She is being immature and stupid… she looks like the fool.

As for you, you have to leave it alone (ya I know its hard, even tho you are 25 not 15)

BUT she is looking for you to go all Ape-Sh!t, it is what she wants…

She’s a Drama Queen, she wants drama.  Don’t satisfy her… don’t give it to her.

Let your guy handle it… he’ll do just fine.

(( HUGS ))

Hope this helps,


Post # 4
384 posts
Helper bee

Don’t play into her hand. I agree that it’s ur husbands issue and really if he feels uncomfortable then think about a restraining order because this is like harassment btwn her and her parents. I would deff have my husband to try handle it civilly but there is always a back up. 

Post # 5
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you should let it go. This sounds like an unattached woman who has had to swallow the bitter pill that your husband did not pick her. I was left behind once too. I was seething inside but I didn’t act like this woman.

I doubt that she will escalate her behavior because most people begin to realize just how ridiculous they look when no one is responding.

If she does come up to you, however, and starts to get in your face, then I would be firm with her. I would do the same with her parents.

If you can avoid these people, all the better.

Post # 6
7673 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kris325:  Don’t get sucked into her games! Any response from you will gratify her. Do not email her or make any contact with her at all.

Your husband has done the right thing as far as I can tell. He didn’t talk to her at the bar and he denied her friend request. (But he should block her too – ask him to do that). I think it’s ok.

Post # 8
5423 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

Just drop kick her already. 

Ok maybe not, but this is his battle, not yours.  And the victory, well, has already been established.

Post # 9
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Don’t give her the attention she’s seeking. that only empowers her to do more nonsense…and probably tell half the world about his crazy new fiancé contacted her.

You’re the one he proposed to…no reason to get ” animalistic” about it.


maybe now is the perfect time to quit smoking so you don’t run into her on smoky patios?

Post # 10
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Clearly your best option is to just let it go 🙂  And you’re exactly right…he chose YOU, not this obnoxious, skanky, no-class tramp!  Even though you weren’t in an intentional battle with this girl, you have won!  Just relish in your silent victory and let her go on displaying how pathetic and miserable she is.  Nothing irks chicks like this more than to see a woman who is classy enough to walk away from their tauntings with a big ole smile on her face and her head held high, arm-in-arm with the man that said chick wishes she could have 😉  She’s trying to beat you in a game that you have no interest in playing, so let her wear herself out and eventually she’ll just fade into the background.  Stay strong!  She’s got nothing on you! 😉

Post # 11
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She’s obviously trying to stir up some drama! I would just try my best to ignore it, I know it’s not easy at all, but if you trust your hubby, trust him to handle it and not fall into this cray-cray’s trap!

Post # 12
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@kris325:  The BEST way to get back at people like this prize douchebag is to move on with your life and be HAPPY. Just ignore her and live a glorious life – it will KILL her.

Post # 13
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You should not say something – you’re right, you’re not 15, so PLEASE don’t get all caught up in a ‘Back off, he’s MINE, bitch!’ catfight. Your guy denied her friend request. If she sends him any messages he can politely respond telling her they haven’t been close since their breakup and he really doesn’t feel it’s appropriate for them to be in touch nor does he want any kind of relationship with her, then block her. If she approaches him in public he should brush her off and exit the situation. But there is nothing you can do here that isn’t going to come across as a territorial high schooler. He married you, you won, stop worrying about this other girl!

Post # 15
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@kris325:  Yeah, I agree that it’s probably a good idea for him to just block her now. He doesn’t want any contact with her, so there’s no reason not to.


Post # 16
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


iagree,and next time you bump into her at the bar,in front of her you and husband have a long sexy kiss right in front of her,then look at her,smile and say to her”i know you wish you could have that,sorry about your luck”then laugh and walk away.then say or do nothing again,but only do above if she does not leave him alone.

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