Post # 32
I’m about 10 weeks along and my Mother-In-Law has already made it a point of telling me that my SIL had her in the room when she had her first 12+ years ago. I was pretty surprised by this because SIL and Mother-In-Law do not have a great relationship but SIL is not close to her own mother and she was only 22 when she had her first so I think that’s why it happened. Needless to say, I let Mother-In-Law know that I do not intend to have anyone else in the room with me besides Darling Husband. When I told Darling Husband about the conversation he was surprised that I wouldn’t want a bunch of people in there. Um, what?! I think he just wants to share the joy wiht everyone but he doesn’t have a clue yet what it takes to actually have a baby. That’s what childbirth classes are for I suppose 🙂
Post # 33
My husband will be the ONLY one (besides my midwife and whoever else needs to be there) watching me deliver. That is a moment I want to just keep between he and I, to be alone and take in what we created for a while before the chaos of friends and family. Plus I know our families pretty well and they aren’t the types to want to be in the room anyway.
Post # 34
with Dear Daughter it was my Darling Husband and my mom for the whole thing, before delivery I had my sister and Brother-In-Law, dad and Mother-In-Law and sisters in the room hanging out which I didn’t mind, when it came time for delivery (and when they checked me) everyone went to the waiting room and I think my dad hung outside the door bc he was worried but couldn’t see anything. I would never invite Mother-In-Law in bc it’s a very open experience and didn’t need her seeing everything, also she can’t even handle being in an ER with the littlest thing without having anxiety so it prob wouldn’t be a good idea, this time around it will most likely be the same scenario and after I get cleaned up and bond for a little then everyone can come in. I also fear c-sections but if anyone does have to get one then your bf/FI/DH is the only one allowed in anyway 🙂
Post # 35
When my brother and SIL had their first daughter, her mother, sister, my parents and myself were in the big private room until it came to push. We left when the doc checked her etc. She had an epi so she felt fine. When it came time to push (for 3 hours) we were allowed to sit outside the door, and on a bench at the end of the hall. I felt awkward, and just sat in the corner quiet. We were out of town at my grandfathers funeral when my second niece was born, but we were all welcomed to be there for her arrival if we had been in town.
When Fiance and I have children, we have discussed this, I dont want a party. I am fine and encourage my parents and Fi mom to be out in the hall or waiting room, and come in for short visits. But I think that it is a special time and I dont need to be worried about having them hear or see something they shouldnt. We have talked about having my mom in the room, a nurse, but I am undecided. Will make that decision when the time comes.
Post # 36
When the time comes, I don’t want anyone in the delivery room other than my husband. He’s a paramedic and an RN so he’s seen plenty of babies being born before. His mom has been at the birth of both his sister and SIL’s babies but I’d feel uncomfortable having her there. I wouldn’t want my mom there either.
Post # 37
No way. I only want Darling Husband and myself in the room. IMO, it’s a bonding experience for you as a couple and as parents. I not only wouldn’t want his family there, I also wouldn’t want my family there as it’s such a personal moment. I am extremely close with my parents, but I firmly believe it’s not their place.