(Closed) Husbands in Professional School?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

FH is a resident and works 80 hours a week.  I see him less than some of my friends see their boyfriends.  One of the things that is so hard is to balance time with my friends and spending time with him, since he often ends up tired when we have plans and needs to sleep or ends up working really late.  On the flip side, sometimes I make dinner plans with a friend, and he’s around and wants to do something.  It doesn’t help that I am a planner and FH is not.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My husband is a 3rd year resident.  We both work (but him significantly more than me).  During wedding planning it was so HARD to get our schedules together to set up meetings.  Now, it’s better although I do wish that we could see each other more.  Now I have a lot more time to keep up on daily chores of life though, so I’m really happy about that.  I am counting down (18 months left!) until he’s finally done!  Then we can start our house hunt.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Darling Husband is in his internship to finish his clinical psychology doctorate (a PsyD). He still has to finish his dissertation, though, so it might be more than one more year until he is done. We’re living apart right now because of distance, so I can’t wait for this step to be over!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My husband is a general surgery intern so he works well over 80 hours per week often.  When he’s home, he’s usually exhausted and hungry.  It’s tough, but we try to make the most of the time get together.  I agree with everyone, that I can’t wait for this part to be over.  I miss having dinner with him.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hubby is in medical school and we also moved away from friends and famiy. It’s tough living according to his test/study schedule but we try to work around it. Since we know there is a long road ahead of us, we (I) make a point to plan activities for specific timeframes so that we can spend some time together other than 10 minute snack breaks. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My husband is in a super competitive grad program and I see him bc he sits at his computer and studies all the time, but we dont spend much QT together.  We barely go grocery shopping together.  I cant talk to him bc he is working so hard.  Sometimes, if I am lucky, I get to correct his papers.  He is super grumpy too.  I cant wait until his school is over in Dec.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Mine’s in law school. It’s not terrible cause I’m in grad school. I just keep telling myself, yes we are working extra hard now, but we get summer and winter vacations! ๐Ÿ™‚ (Well, to work. but still…who doesn’t love getting paid?)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

Mr. MJ is working full time and working on his grad degree full time. I am also working full time and working on my grad degree full time. It’s rough, but it pays off later!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Darling Husband is a bank manager working 50-60 hours a week and is halfway through his mba… I work as a consultant 45-50 hours a week and have law school 3 nights a week and don’t get home until 930pm. Darling Husband also works every other saturday or sometimes even more… plus it’s football season…

sometimes i feel like all i ever see him is right before bed, just to fall asleep together :'( sundays are usually our best bet to have 1 day off together; but now that fantasy football in in gear… i lose him to the flatscreen!

we try to make the best of it, sneaking in a late night dinner, a movie date, etc. to make sure we spend some de-stressing time together. we’ve talked about it and both of us are on the same page that we are taking this ridiculous schedule of work/school on for a better future… it’s a sacrifice we’re making together now… so we try to think of ways to make the time we spend together more meaningful ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Fiance is a third year med student (hello rotations).  It’s hard not seeing him; even harder b/c I work in management consulting and can sometimes put in 70-80 hours a week myself.  We honestly don’t see each that much (one or  if we’re lucky two weekends a month) and we don’t live together so it’s definitely a strain.  Once he goes into residency it’s just gonna get worse. Not much to do about it.

Post # 14
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Newbee

Rooster is in his first year of DPT school, it’s really not so bad so far. Next year it’s supposed to get harder. Hang in there, it gets easier! It’s all worth it!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yep. My husband is in medical school and I feel the same way. Oh my goodness during his anatomy was the worst – I never saw him! It has been a little better, but we definitely have hardly any days where we both get home at the same time and can just relax. Normally even if we are home together one of us has something school related to worry about at the same time. I just keep telling myself that it will all be worth it in the end ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh bees, I hear ya, poor Fiance is working fulltime and in school fulltime.  I.NEVER.SEE.HIM.  ๐Ÿ™  It stinks.  I can’t wait until it changes…  he literally leaves at 7 to catch a bus and is home at 10:30 at night.  Yup.  Exciting married life… and then he works all weekend… But we are making it.  When he is just working someday it will feel really nice.

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