Post # 1
It’s increasingly popular to hyphenatethese days – especially when it comes to giving your children a last name. It’s an option that I find attractive except for one thing…
Does anyone wonder what will happen when our hyphenated children find and marry a hyphenated partner? It seems like a likely scenario given how many people hyphenate these days. Do you ever feel like you’re just passing on the last name issue to the next generation?
Post # 3
I can answer this! I’m a hyphenated woman!
I did this however not after my wedding but after my divorce. I wanted the name of my father as a last name but also wanted my son’s teachers to know who his mom is and not be terribly confused.
Plus I am a liberated kinda chick.
Am I hyphenating this time? Nah. But I’ll probably have my last name as my middle name.
Post # 4
I don’t think that we will be doing the “hyphenation” but I have wondered the same thing.
Post # 5
If I decided to hyphenate instead of keeping my own name, we still wouldn’t hyphenate our kids’ names. The plan is for them to have my last name as a middle and his last as their last, and that wouldn’t change regardless of what I do with my name.
Honestly, though, I think the whole hyphenation issue is overblown as a “problem.” The kid will have to make the same decisions any of the rest of us make — change entirely? Keep and not change anything? Or, in this case, drop half of the hyphenated name and add their partner’s name in its place (or half of their partner’s name, if the partner is also hyphenated)? And each kid will address it in the way that seems best for them. Just like the keeping-changing debate that comes up pretty often, it’s not really an issue unless people choose to make it one…
Post # 6
Or – as I’ve always imagined – have a four-part hypenation.
“Hello, I’m Ms. Jane Jonson-Miller-Spennilli-Armstong”
But good point HL – it’s not really an issue unless you decide it’s going to be an issue.
Post # 7
I feel like this could be as much of a problem as “what happens when two people with equally long last names fall in love?” People have to make choices, and different things affect them. The chances that two hyphenated people will choose to hyphenate themselves is slim. My SIL kept her last name when she got married, but their kids will only have my BIL’s name. Why? Not because of ease or length, but because her name is Darling. And you can’t have little kids walking around named Darling-Smith, it’s just mean. (It was nauseating enough at the “Darling-Smith wedding…”)
Post # 8
Oh my god, “Darling” is the cutest last name!
Hyphenation can get complicated. I think in Spain you always hyphenate and then the baby gets the last part of the hyphenation (the grandfather’s name) from each parent. I am not positive, maybe someof you Spanish brides can chime in. Maybe that tradition will take here as well.