(Closed) Hyphanating my Last name

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
Member
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think your professional and legal names should be the same, but it’s absolutely possible to be Dr. Mine-His at work and “Oh, just call me Divergirl His” socially.  My MIL hyphenated her name, but almost no one uses the full name, and she choose to be First His on our wedding invites.

Post # 4
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295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I also know several people who go by First HisLast socially and First Maiden HisLast professionally (without the hyphen), which is another option that might make it simpler on the legal front.

Post # 5
Member
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve been having this same problem… already have a BA and MFA with my maiden name, and I’m an actress/artist.  My parents are entertainers too, and took a lot of care giving me a fantastic name was I was born, just so I wouldn’t ever have to change it if I decided to “get famous,”  hahaha. Tongue out  My FI is performer as well, and completely understands my feelings on the subject.  So I’ve decided to do as the Europeans do, and make my maiden name my 2nd middle name, and his last name my last name.

So professionally I’ll be maiden name.

And personally I’ll be Mrs MyName (MyMaidenName) HisLastName.

… I think, haha.  I have two months to decide!!

Post # 6
Hostess
18654 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You will probably have to change your name to the hypenated name legally in order to get your degrees in that name, they won’t give it to a name that you aren’t legally known as.  You can socially go by whatever name you want.

Post # 7
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1777 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am essentially doing what MissHay is thinking of.  Legally I am MyFirst MyMiddle MyLast HisLAst, but still go by my maiden name professionally (I verified with my professional board that this was legal).  Socially I go by MyFirst MyMaiden HisLast.  I have had no problems about this professionally.  The problem with hyphenating is that your legal last name requires BOTH.  I didn’t want to hyphenate because in my mind, then we still don’t have the same last name.  I am very happy with my choice EXCEPT:

1. People want to leave out my maiden name, which aggravates me to no end!  My name is my choice.

2. When people are looking up you by last name, you never know which name they filed it under.

Post # 8
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1014 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

just a note, some states won’t let you have two middle names on your drivers liscense.  so you either have to get rid of your middle name altogether, or hyphenate yourlast-hislast.

Post # 9
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1777 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Good point.  SS was fine, but even with that card, the DMV wouldn’t let me put my maiden name on it.

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