Post # 1
Up until recently, I was adamant on not changing my last name. Lately I’ve been thinking that it might be a nice to change it…and I am starting to like the idea! My question is…if you changed your last name…did you hyphen it or not? I don’t want to lose my middle names as they are very dear to me and include my late grandparent’s names so that’s a no-go. Not sure whether to be Allana W-N or Allana W N. What did you do and why? Pros and cons? Was the no-hyphen name confusing on legal documents for example? I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!! haha
Thanks for your input bees
Post # 2
I hyphened because New York State doesn’t allow for double-barrened without paying expensive court fees, and I didn’t want to mess with my middle name (I love my middle name too). I like the hyphen because it is clear that they are both last names and it shows my maiden and married and the line is sort of symbolic of marriage. Because they are clearly last names, I know there is no confusion filing- I will be listed under the letter of my maiden name all the time. The only problem I have had with it is with airline tickets. Sometimes they won’t allow you to type in a hypen. The correct response is to type both names without a space as one long word. It looks a bit funny, but it works just fine.
Another great thing about it, is that really you only have to change your name on legal documents (driver’s license, and passport). Other things like credit cards, health insurance, bank, etc- you don’t have to change because your maiden name is still shown in your legal name (I’ve actually asked them- they don’t care). Makes for a super simple name change.
Post # 3
I didn’t hyphenate because my husband’s last name is too damn long lol!
Post # 4
I would not hypen, I would do a double last name. That gives you the option to use one or
both when you want. With a hyphen, you have to use both all the time.
Post # 5
I am going to double last names, and not hypen, but you should check with the county clerk to see if its possible for you or what the legalities are
Post # 6
I am planning to hyphenate and am keeping my maiden name first. My aunt also has a hyphen and uses only her maiden name for a lot of things. I also called my credit card companies and they don’t care if my maiden name stays on the card. It just seems easier! I will change my ss card, driver’s license, and passport of course.
Post # 7
I did not hypenate because it would make my last name exceedingly long. Try to keep in mind that most people will address you by the LAST last name rarely will someone say Jane Doe Thompson, most people shorten it anyway to Jane Thompson. Also, you have to write this name on things like…checks…I totally respect your desire to keep your last name somewhere but for me it was just more trouble than it was worth.
Post # 8
i don’t think i will hyphen my name because his name is actually already IN my name (e.g. my name is appleton, and his name is ton. i don’t want it to be appleton-ton)
hence, i am keeping my last name legally, but i will still respond to and call myself mrs. ton.
Post # 9
I can see apple ton-ton is not the way to go !
Post # 10
We’re planning to both hyphenate our names in the same order. My last name will come first because we decided to do it alphabetically. Also, her last name sounds weird in front, haha.
Post # 11
I am going to keep both last names, no hypen. I’ve pretty much always known that I would want to take my husband’s last name but as I got older I thought about hyphenating. Once I learned I could just keep both names without a hypen, that was what I decided.
I think in my mind… I want to have the same last name as my future husband. It feels more “unified” to me. So if I were to hypen we would have different last names. If I keep my maiden name as a middle name of sorts, I still get to keep my name but he and I will still have the same last name, because that’s what I plan to go by socially.
Post # 12
I’m not changing my name, but two of my friends went the no hyphen route and found that 99% of the time, people drop the first of the two last names. If you want to hang on to the first last name, hyphenating seems safer.
Post # 13
I have what they call a “double barreled” surname: two words, no hyphen. My middle name was no impacted. It has not caused me any additional hassle, and it’s also provided some benefits. For example, I have no trouble cashing checks made out to either (or both) of my last names. I changed my passport, SS card and driver’s license to reflect both parts of my surname, but my checks, credit cards remain with only my maiden name and it’s perfectly fine. Had I hypenated, I would need to change everything.