Hyphenated Name Changes

posted 3 days ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

We got married in CA, but my husband and I both changed last names when we got married.  As you said, we just took our marriage license with us to the SSA office.

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Bumble bee

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trillgoddess :  We both created a new last name, we combined both of our last names.  So I changed my single last name to my last name-his last name, and he changed his name from his last name to my last name-his last name. So now we both have a last name of my last name-his last name.

But yeah, neither of us started with a hyphenated name.  Wish I could be more helpful 🙂

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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trillgoddess :  It’s going to depend a lot on the state and county you are in. Definitely go for it! The worst that can happen is they say no. And I do think there’s a high chance of them saying no. Most states don’t allow men to change their names with marriage – they have to go through the court.

My mom hyphenated her name when I was born, for the sake of having a similar name to mine. When I grew up, she tried to drop the hyphen and go back to just her maiden name. Nope! The SS office told her she has to bring in her divorce decree…. She didn’t get divorced. She just wanted to drop the hyphen because she found it annoying. They told her she had to go through the court to go back to her maiden name. 

My husband and I created an entirely new last name, which required us to both go through the court. It’s annoying, but we figured it was worth it since it’s a few months of hassle for a life time with our new name. If I could go back in time though, I would have had just him go through the court and do it before we got married. That way our new name would have been on the marriage license, and I could have just “taken his name”. It was much more costly the way we did it, but it still worked out! 

Good luck!! Go to the SS office and try. 

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Honey bee

 What state are you in?

Post # 8
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Honey bee

Based on what I read, I think you will need to go to court first and then social security. Despite what most people think, name changes are governed by state law and you must change your name with the state first since you are both changing your name to just half his last name.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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trillgoddess :  I do not see SC allowing you to do this. You’ll have to file a petition with the court. It really isn’t that big a deal, but it may cost a few hundred dollars and require you to go to the courthouse a few times. For me, I filed an initial petition, then brought in necessary documents, then did a background check, and finally got a court date. My husband did the same. The court date was as easy as waiting for the judge to call me. I walked up, stated my name, and stated what I wanted my new name to be. He stamped my name change order, and I took it to the SS office. My husband and I got our new SS cards and driver’s licenses the same day as our court dates, which occurred about 3 months after the initial petition. It’s been about two years now, and we’re still so happy we did it!

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