(Closed) Hyphenating- Drop Middle Name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: Should I drop my middle name?

    yes

    no

  • Post # 48
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @cologirl:  Sorry for being so judgemental of your choices, the trueth is that, yes, I am.  Every time I have met someone with a hyphenated last name I have wanted to roll my eyes.  So I want to thank you for shedding some light on the subject for me, and everyone, for that matter. 

    I must say, well said Miss E xx.

    Post # 50
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @cologirl:  well I just hope no one here has to fill out papper work on me.  Wink  But I must say, a hypenated last name is identity theft deterrent.

    Post # 51
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

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    @cologirl:  I think you should keep your middle name, personally.  Middle names are used more rarely, but then you will always have it if you ever want to use it.  I’m really glad I saw this thread because I am going through something similar!

    When Fiance and I first discussed names, he assumed I would just keep my name (I also don’t like feeling like property, lol!).  He figured that he wouldn’t dare change his last name if he didn’t want to change his (Swoon- I’m so excited to marry this guy!).  I was glad he didn’t mind, but I wasn’t completely satisfied with the arrangement because of the societal pressure to become a family unit.  As we were going through customs after a Caribbean vacation, I was surprised to learn that to be a “family” as defined by US customs and immigration you must 1) Reside at the same address and 2) have the same last name (Seriously?! It’s 2013).  If you don’t fit this definition of family, then each person has to fill out their own form instead of having one for the whole family.  FI and I thought it was weird.  One day, out of the blue, Fiance says that he figured out our last name dilemma.  He thought we should both change our last names to MYLASTNAME-HISLASTNAME.  That way, we both keep our identities, add our spouse’s name, and become a family unit.  Plus, it’s a 3 syllable hyphenated last name, so its not crazy long or wordy.  He said if it was good enough for Beyonce and Jay-Z, it was good enough for him, ha ha.  Also, we live in San Diego where we have a large hispanic population and most people in Mexico have 2 names so I don’t think it’s as unheard of here.  I haven’t seen another bee doing the same thing before- we could start a revolution! One bonus is that neither Fiance nor I have super unique first or last names, but if I hyphenate them, then I will be the only person with that name on google and it will be easy to find me- which may be good for my career (I’m an attorney).

    And before anyone grills me- if you want to take your husband’s last name, then more power to you!  I think it’s a personal choice for each individual person to make, and I don’t believe in adding to more woman-on-woman hate in the world for those choices.  That said, I don’t think it’s right for a husband to demand his wife change her name, that’s her individual choice.   

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