(Closed) Hypothetical: If you and your SO were separated, what would you do?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: If you an your SO could not legally live in either of your home countries, what would you do?
    Live separate lives in our own countries but stay together as a couple. : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Both move to a new country and start your lives over where you could be together. : (93 votes)
    77 %
    One or the other would immigrate illigally. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Break up - this is no way to live a life. : (24 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 3
    7172 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    That would be a such a sad situation!  I’m not a believer in one soul mate… so my vote would be breakup.  I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship where I had no hope to ever see the person or it would be illegal to be together!  Hope your visa process goes smoothly! (and quickly!)

    Post # 4
    10649 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    It would depend on the country.  I would be willing to move to the US if we could both live there legally.  I wouldn’t want to have to go any further though.

    Post # 5
    4438 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    Have you read Committed by Elizabeth Gilbert? 🙂

    Post # 6
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would move to another country with them! I think it wouls be fun to live somewhere new!

    Post # 7
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We’re international and have thought about this. I think we’ve both agreed we’d give Australia a shot if the UK and US didn’t work. We’ve played with the idea of moving to new country anyway (though ultimately decided to move to his).

    Post # 8
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I would DIE.

    Jk, but really, I think I would be alright with moving to another country entirely. I think it is very to sad to think that a relationship is not strong enough or important enough to you that you would not do everything to make it work, i.e. break up. People have LDR all over the world, and though those aren’t usually permanently long distance, it does prove that it is possible (and yes, I realize that some people think LDR don’t work, I am one of them, which is why I would not want to try it.)

    Besides, it would be a great excuse to move and have an adventure!

    Post # 9
    8036 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @cbgg:  I would try to start fresh in a new country if the worst came to the worst.

    To put your mind at ease… realistically, it’s not that hard to move to Canada. My family did it back in the day, and we NEED people here.

    Also… if your SO is an American citizen, it’s actually fairly easy to get a visa for you. I believe it then makes you applicable for a green card (permanent residence):

    To promote family unity, immigration law allows U.S. citizens to petition for certain qualified relatives to come and live permanently in the United States. Eligible immediate relatives include the U.S. citizen’s:

    • Spouse
    • Unmarried child under the age of 21
    • Parent (if the U.S. citizen is over the age of 21)

    Immediate relatives have special immigration priority and do not have to wait in line for a visa number to become available for them to immigrate because there are an unlimited number of visas for their particular categories.


    I know it can be hard, but your particular situation should work out.

    Post # 11
    2253 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We would move to another country as soon as we could afford it. Having been in a LDR for years, I know the angst of being separated. Even cooler is depending on the country, our kids could hold dual or multiple citizenship.

    Post # 13
    10363 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Canada and America have such liberal immigration laws with one another that I have a hard time believing that would be the case, barring some sort of law-breaking/legal trouble.

    However, if it were a more severe case, i’d try to find a new contry we could both live in. If that didn’t work, we’d have to break up.


    Post # 14
    4438 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @cbgg:  Yes!  Her Fiance is being denied moving to the US so they spend some time abroad so that they can still be together.  Until she’s denied moving around anymore and has to go back to the US and starts planning their wedding and house shopping alone!


    It’s really good 🙂

    Post # 15
    13095 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d try to find a new country to live in together before just calling it quits on the relationship.

    Post # 16
    9988 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @cbgg:  We would definitely  move somewhere we could be together, 100% certain, no doubt whatsoever.  I would not want to live anywhere I couldn’t be with my husband.  I care about being with him a thousand times more than I care about where I live.

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