Hypothetical mIL question

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would tel your Mother-In-Law (or your fiancé should be th one to say this), that under no certain terms, there will not be room for those extra people invited and only those who received a written invitation from you can be accommodated. SHE must be the one to tell them that there was a mix up (on her part, not yours) and that they are not invited. 

Although, depending on how many people it was, i would probably just figure out how to fit them in. 

Post # 3
2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

“Sorry, Mother-In-Law, there seems to have been a misunderstanding.  We can only accommodate the guests on our list – we have no space for extras.  You will need to inform those people you have mistakenly invited.”

Post # 4
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

What the PPs said, but I’d also wait, in this hypothetical situation, to make sure that Mother-In-Law actually *invited* these people and didn’t just mention it and imply that they were invited. Cause heck I’ve done the *wedding is mentioned in mixed company* *I talk in generalities* *Someone implies that everyone in the room is invited* *I change the subject without correcting them* and it’s awkward as hell. In that situation, one can wait until a possible guest has overstepped their welcome rather than blaming a Mother-In-Law for not gracefully getting out of what is an impossibly awkward situation. 

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