(Closed) Hypothetical question for you all..

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Gingersnap: Yes, moving is the best option.  I understand your frustration.  She has a lot of balls.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have to have dinner once in awhile with my DH;s one and only ex gf (and only other girl he has slept with) so i know just how you feel…..i guess akward is the best word, sorry you have to go through this….i know (if you Fiance is like mine) he doesnt see the weirdness in it…as my Darling Husband always says “Whats the big deal…im with you not her…” ughh…. i guess keep that in mind?? *laugh*

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Whoah I’m confused, so you’re the one that lives with 3 other people? And this ex (of your FI’s) is friends with one of them and so she’s been staying the night? Or is she engaged to one of your roommates?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Darling Husband is on an adult soccer league and the ex right before me is the captain of the team. She tries to hit on him still and gets really close to him when I’m standing next to them and I have to say, “You DO remember that he’s married and that I’m standing right here, right?” That usually shoo’s her away but it’s really annoying that I have to do it in the first place haha

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

yay for moving soon! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow how AWKWARD! You poor thing. I mean, there’s not a whole lot you can do. Other than maybe, cancel the whole no-sex-tonight policy…heheh!! (and make sure she hears you, lol)

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It actually wouldn’t bother me in the least.  But this stuff never does.  We’ve had exes of my fiance come visit and stay over with us.  Once one of them came to visit and stayed over while I was out of town – but I couldn’t complain because I was skiing with my ex and his girlfriend (who is also one of my really good friends).

Yeah… we are off the charts chill with regard to exes.

ETA: Fremenies?  UGH.  OK, I totally don’t think I need to give you some of my ex chillness (because clearly I have some to spare).  That totally changes the story – she’s being lame and you should have really loud sex when she’s there.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Gingersnap:  Yeah, from your original story it sounded like she just happened to be over, but clearly it seems like she’s feigning closeness with your roommate so she can be creepy.

My strategy would probably be to have loud roleplay sex pretending that we’re Dick Cheney and Karl Rove or something ridiculous like that, but my basic defense mechanism is “be as creepy as possible.”  It’s probably more entertaining than effective, though.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Gingersnap:  Yeah, don’t worry about it.  Now that I think about it, if she’s staying there THREE NIGHTS IN ONE WEEK (which means she is staying over on work nights too!) then clearly something is going on.  I mean, theoretically it’s possible her home life right now totally sucks or something, bug given the history Occam’s razor says she’s trying to mess with your relationship or at least being a weird quasi-stalker.

I would fight it with awkwardness.  Like I said, I fight everything by making people feel awkward, but I think in this situation, enlist your fiance and just make her uncomfortable.  You don’t want to talk to your roommate and make her feel defensive, and you don’t want to be a bitch to the girl and make her feel like she’s getting to you.  Thin walls = perfect opportunity to make her wish she wasn’t sleeping so close by.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Gingersnap: No! She doesn’t know. No one outside of our family and wedding party know. Do you think that would help her back off? Because if so I would TOTALLY flaunt it 😀

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