(Closed) Hypothetical Question: would you "surprise" your family with twins?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Busy bee

I dunno..my first thought is about the baby shower and one twin being left out. Like what if you had fraternal boy/girl twins?

Although I do think that’s a cool idea.  I guess you’d also have to keep the sex a secret as well.  Hope no one buys you a 3d ultra sound package and you couldn’t show your ultra sounds to anyone. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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Ilovetruffels:  I just had a baby five months ago. I can’t imagine keeping a secret that big from people- I would’ve been so overwhlemed with the idea of TWO babies, not to mention a twin pregnancy (which at the least you get bigger/gain more weight/are more uncomfortable and are usually also higher risk than a singleton pregnancy)! We wanted to be surprised (and have everyone else be surprised) at birth by the sex of our baby but we accidentally saw a penis on the ultrasound and it was hard to keep that a secret!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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Ilovetruffels:  Although, I don’t think the ultrasound would be a problem. We only had one done at 20 weeks and it was just me and my husband there. These days it seems like people post them all over Facebook but the only people that saw our utrasound pics were our parents, because we thought they’d like to see- they were amazed how much the technology had advanced since they had us! I think you could just say you didn’t get any printouts or something.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Ya …people buy ultrasounds…lol especially the grandmother or sisters..lol. you get regular ultrasounds during doctors appointments to see how the baby is doing but these days with these 3d ultrasounds you can buy packages and go on your own. My mother…ya she had to get me one.  She had to come see the baby and she needed a copy of the video for herself of the ultrasound..lol. (And that was for my fourth baby! Although she hadn’t heard of the 3d before with my other children and my boys are older and they weren’t available then)  I also have a few friends who’s mothers did the same.  Even then your mother or sister (if you have one) is no doubt want to go to an ultrasound with you. You could say u just want your do there I guess. My mother always came to at least one of mine each time. She loved seeing her grandchildren before they were born. 

As for pics I guess u can ask the tech to only give u pics with one baby in them. Once the babies r bigger u really only see one at a time anyhow. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Ilovetruffels:  Seems like it would be a impractical and a lot of work, and I’m not sure what the payoff would be. Telling before the birth would get the same oohs and ahhs as telling after the birth, but you wouldn’t have to hide the nursery from everyone. Plus I have to imagine carrying twins might be more tiring than carrying a single baby and I’d want to capitalize on that shit. “Drive you to the airport? I wish I could but I’m exhausted carrying these twins, there’s no way I’ll be up at 5:00am.”

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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Ilovetruffels:  Hypothetically: You could surprise them with the news of twins before the birth in a fun cute way. I can’t imagine springing 2 babies on them after the birth. I think my family would be put-off that I knew and didn’t tell them.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I have twin cousins who were born in 1988 and their parents never knew they were having twins until the birth.  Can you imagine?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I never thought of keeping twins a secret. I personally wouldn’t, for lots of the reasons mentioned here.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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Ilovetruffels:  My mom kind of did this. However, she did not know herself until the first was born. My brothers were born in the early eighties, and ultra sounds were not as common then so my mom went her entire pregnancy (yes they were only a day early) thinking she was just having one big baby. They did not even know the sex of the “one” baby either. 

The funny story is that when my dad came out of the delivery room my aunt immediately asked him if it was a boy or a girl. He kept telling her that she will have to wait and see. My aunt was not very happy with this response cause it was such a “simple question to answer”. But my parents wanted it to be just as a surprise as it was for them. 

Once they wheeled my mom out in a chair she was holding my two brothers. Of course everyone was in shock and really were speachless. Everone was so happy, and overjoyed. 

Even though my parents did not know they were having twins until the day she delivered they still somewhat kept it a secret until the family could actually see the babies. No one was upset once they saw them. 

But in your hypothetical situation, I think it would be fun. Plenty of people keep the gender a secret, so what is the difference or problem with keeping the amount secret. What does it matter? The baby or babies, male or female will be loved just the same. 🙂

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I wouldnt. I’d be shouting it at everyone. Haha.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

It sounds like a fun surprise but logistically you need to tell them because you will NEED the extra clothes/diapers/gifts that people will send.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think my family would figure it out when they came over and saw 2 cribs, car seats etc. plus you go to more dr. Appointments when you are having multiples.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I wouldn’t be able to keep it a secret. I hope to keep the gender a secret (even from myself but we’ll see how that goes when the time comes lol). I also wouldn’t put the ultrasound picture on fb as who really cares except for close family and friends who I would show it to anyways.

Also the FDA warned a few days ago about doing unnecessary ultrasounds as the longterm effects aren’t known.

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