- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
ok – so my Maid/Matron of Honor is one of my best friends – she’s great, always there for me…BUT. i’ve come to realize she is the type of person that is REALLY hard to joke around with. She is not the “slide it off my back” type of person – but instead – (and she’s always been this way) i’ve learned that I have to be very careful about how I talk to her because she is so freakin sensitive and if I say something the wrong way to her she gets all defensive and thinks I’m attacking her.
I have other friends who – know how sarcastic I can be and joke around and everything just “slides”…but my Maid/Matron of Honor (who’s known me for 4 years now, but we’ve only been close for about 2) – if I don’t say something to her exactly in a nice and sensitive way, gets OVER sensitive and pissy because she thinks I’m being rude or mean – when I’m not at all – I just can be a bit sarcastic at times.
She’s also – throughout this entire planning – been SO incredible at helping planning everything because I’m a very laid back sort of person and she is the “i’m in control I have to know what’s going on all the time” which HAS helped me out a lot – but when/if I don’t have a definite plan on something she gets all in a huff and all “I’m only trying to help you out” in a rushed tone like I’m an idiot for not having “definitive plans” all the time.
I dunno – maybe it’s just the wedding planning and stuff and since it’s SO close i’m just stressing…but I’m also the kind that I’ll figure things out as I’m doing them – she HAS to have plans 3 months ahead of time on schedule EXACTLY how it’s going down or she freaks out. This isn’t even HER wedding! My other Bridesmaid or Best Man (who was actually my MOH’s husband’s friend from college but we all hang out now) is close to her as well and the other night we were talking about how – neither of us were in MOH’s wedding and don’t know if we could have handled it, had we been! lol.
I’m just wondering if any of you have any friends like this? Most days I know not to say or do anything that gets her in a mood – but I really hate sometimes how I have to choose HOW I say things to her wisely for fear of her thinking I’m attacking her. And yes, Bridesmaid or Best Man feels this same exact way (so i’m not crazy! lol)