Post # 1
This is pretty embarrassing…
So we are at the exciting stage where we are getting RSVPs back via website. We also created a FB invite to easily make announcements and updates. Today I was going through the FB responses to compare them with the website responses and realized that I accidently invited an old coworker who lives in another state. We knew each other but I’ was far closer to other coworkers that I was not able to invite due to our limited space. It would’ve been easy to just uninvite her but she has already replied “yes.” We really can’t accomodate an unexpected guest (and her husband) and we already have other guests in mind to fill in for any “no’s” we might get. What to do?
Post # 2
I would personally say you have to let her come. You can’t really “uninvite” her for your mistake. That is just my opinion, though.
Post # 3
You’ve learned a SM lesson. Now you’re either gonna suck it up or you’re gonna be a bitch. Your choice.
Post # 4
Eh, if you don’t really see yourself having a relationship with her in the future I would apologize and explain (I.e disinvite).
Post # 5
Let her come. It’s your mistake for inviting her, and uninviting her now would be incredibly rude.
Post # 6
ileanonthewall: You put her on a facebook group but didn’t send an invitation?
I think you’re saved by the fact that you haven’t invited other old co-workers.
Write to her that you made a mistake, and did not mean to invite her. Explain that you haven’t invited other old co-workers either, the wedding is small and you can’t invite everyone, etc etc. If she asks other people she knows she’ll find they’re not invited either, so you should be alright.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Un-inviting her now, unless it’s literally like a 20-person family-only wedding, would be incredibly rude. Others will say no; give her one of their spots. NBD.
Post # 8
Big faux pas using Facebook to manage invites. Even if you don’t accidentally invite the wrong person, depending on your guests’ privacy settings, the whole world might be able to see your invite.
Anyway, you have to make room for this guest, taking back your invite would be incredibly rude and hurtful. Plus, for all you know, she may have already bought a gift or a new dress or plane tickets.
Post # 9
If she lives in another state and still said yes than I’m guessing she thinks you guys are closer than you actually are. I think it would be pretty hurtful to uninvite her now. Also, as a PP stated, what if she already bought tickets or booked a hotel room? I typically don’t RSVP ‘yes’ until I have my travel plans and hotel set up.
Post # 10
thanks for all the advice, ladies. so i talked to her over facebook (as i don’t have her number or email address), and turns out she accidentally accepted! since she lives out of state, she wasn’t planning on attending. we laughed it off and she wished us well 🙂
Post # 11
ileanonthewall: haha accidental invite and accidental accept! All’s well that ends well. 🙂
I would be careful about facebook though. Can’t you set up a group so only certain people can see it?