(Closed) I almost cried at my 2nd fitting and not cuz i was happy

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I think it’s normal.  At my 1 month mark I had a bit of a panic, now that I’m at three weeks, I’m OK again.  Don’t worry about the dress too much, your seamstresses will take care of it; they are professionals!  Hang in there. 

Post # 4
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Make a list.  Pick 10 things that are most important to you that you would really upset if they were not part of your wedding day.  Stick this list to the fridge, bathroom mirror, whatever.  Pick the 10 least important things, and throw them in the trash!

I found in my last month it was very helpful to set aside one or two days a week to do NOTHING wedding related.  Mondays seemed to work out well for me.  So, while your schedule may be different than mine, I found it helpful to designate so much time on a Saturday and/or Sunday for just wedding related items.  So, I’d get up early, and be the wedding woman from 8 – 1 and then I was done.  If it wasn’t done by 1, it would have to wait until Sunday. 

Take a deep breath, and remember not to sweat the small stuff.  Oh, and it’s all small stuff!

Post # 5
1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My last month was the worst.  I was stressed, I wasn’t sleeping, it was bad.  Take some time and do something for yourself.  Make sure you don’t do anything wedding related at least one day a week – that includes no weddingbee.  I’d drive myself insane when I was on here and my time was coming up and I was so stressed out – what else was I forgetting – how come everyone else is happy and I’m not.  In the end it will work out.

Post # 6
599 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

For some reason, the one month mark seemed to whihp my (then) Fiance into shape. Its like, suddenly he realized that we were having this big party in a month and maybe he should get going on planning it and preparing for it. It couldn’t have happened at a better time, because like you I was hitting my wall at the one month mark and saying “I don’t care” to everything that needed to get done.

He took over on a lot of things, he interrogated me and made lists about what needed to get done, finished all the programs and their boxes by himself, took care of the Out of Town bags, folded paper for poms so all I had to do was fluff them, etc. Really made me feel a lot better, and even excited about the whole thing.

With only a month left, get your Fiance to jump in and take over some projects. I think guys can tend to have trouble taking the long view, but work pretty well under pressure!

Post # 7
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry!  My second dress fitting was an absolute disaster–I stormed out with my dress after demanding my money back for the alterations.  I was shaking I was so angry, but it all turned out okay.  The shop did end up finishing them, and fixing the problems they created.

Definitely start thinking about what you can cut from your wedding planning without missing it.  My idea of fancy programs became a tri-folded piece of cover-stock.  There’s space for everything to give.

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee

Cut out the frills that aren’t important.  Don’t DIY like making 200 candy apples…just start to down size.  I wanted an initial logo, in the end, I said “forget it, it’s toomuch detail to oversee.’  I wanted choc covered strawberries but couldn’t deal with the person who needed us to pick up because she counldn’t deliver because hse was babysitting grandchildren that day…but could still make them…

I wanted meny cards.  I wanted donation cards.  At the end I said forget all this stuff. Not important to the day.  will it make a difference in my guest’s happiness and remembrance of the day; or am I collecting photo ops?

As I began to peel away all the things that really don’t matter; but are nice; I felt burdens were lifted off my shoulders.

As for the dress, depending on what you paid, go look at a discount bridal place which does cash and carry.  It’s not worth the stress. Already you are saying  the dress was for a taller person.  Call  your dressmaker and tell her you are asking her to finish the dress now because you are looking for other dresses because you are unhappy.  Ask her to move up your completion date.  Call some friends the same size and ask if their dress is available for you to use in case yours doesn’t come out well. 

Start looking on line for bridemaids dresses in off white.  Look in upscale store on line catalogues where you’d never normally shop.  Spend one day on line shopping.  Spend another day trying on new gowns.  Something is out there.  Really.  you have to cut some losses and maybe it’s your dress.

If after all this, you still love your dress….keep insisting the alterations are finished asap!  You can threaten not to pay the balance due.  Not a nice thing to do, but if she is qualified and can do it, she’lldo it.  Oterwise, she’ll chalk it up to her inexperience and not finish.  Maybe your alterations are surpass her abilities and she bit off more than she can chew.  You need to sweelty, and honestly, speak to your dressmaker. 

Pls keep us informed.  I am worried for your sanity.  make it a happy day, please!


Post # 11
368 posts
Helper bee

So happy things are going well for you!! Post a picture of this infamous dress!!!

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