Post # 1
My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married for a long time. He let the beans slip about him asking me this coming up December (next month). I even got to pick out my own ring, and I had to help pay for it. I was evn with him when he went to pick it up. But he still waants to do the whole surprise thing. If I know when it’s coming, what the ring looks like, and all that stuff, should I wait for a not-so-surprise proposal, or should I try to do a mutual engagement? Whay would you all do? I need some advice.
Post # 3
Keep in mind that the proposal, while aimed at you, is also a special moment for him. He may have something special in mind for how he’ll ask or what he wants to say.
Post # 4
Believe me, it will be special even though you know. Just let it happen. Who knows? You might not know how it will happen.
Post # 5
I would just let him do the proposal. This is something he wants to do for you and himself so why not let him? Like LucyMegs said, he probably already has something in mind that he’d like to do for you, which would be surprising in and of itself 🙂
Post # 6
@cammie1: Okay. Thank you. I think I should let him do it too. He’s been talking about this for months. I won’t take it away from him.
Post # 7
Let him propose! I also knew my proposal was coming…although I wasn’t supposed to know I kinda found out when I was snooping around that he had called my father, who’m he never talks to, ever….so that’s how I knew. I had shown him a ring I liked a year before and I had a birthday coming up….so all signs pointed to me getting my proposal on my bday and it happend. I wouldn’t change anything! Let him ask you…its the right thing. It’s not fake…you don’t have to pretend to be super surprised…just be happy the moment finally came.
Post # 8
I think you are looking at this the wrong way! No matter if you picked out the ring or know the time place and everything its going to happen, you still dont know what he is going to say and act. Even though you think you might you still dont know how exactly you are going to feel in that moment! I think you should let him do the proposal the way he wants, because it is going to be a really special moment for the two of you, and if that is what he is aiming for dont ruin it for him. Just enjoy!!
Post # 9
I totally picked out my ring, told him when to buy it, and knew it was in the house for weeks. The suspence was terrible & thrilling at the same time. When the moment finally happened… a month later… It was awesome! Just the whole lil speech he gave and where he did it was very surprising and romantic in it’s own way (he is so not the romantic kind). Let him do it on his own time. It will be so much more special for the both of you and the story will be better to tell.
Post # 10
I would let him do it. That’s just me.