Post # 1
I already know the date of when my SO will propose. He mentioned June which is obviously this month.
First weekend in June, it didn’t happen. The weekend that just passed was a long weekend. I thought it would occur then seeing as it was a long weekend. But nope, didn’t occur then either.
So that cancels out the previous 2 weekends in June that have just passed.
Next Saturday 18th June, I’ve committed to a retreat so it definitely won’t occur then. So that cancels that particular weekend out.
Which leads us to the last weekend in June! I was a tad upset that proposal didn’t occur the long weekend that just past. So I verbally communicated this to SO. And I also mentioned how I figured out he was going to propose last weekend in June and his body and verbal language gave it away. Of course, it was obvious enough as it was anyway.
Another reason why I know it’ll occur last weekend in June is because we only see each other one day a week (we don’t live together) and considering that, whilst we were talking proposal plans (as you do when you converse about timelines and marriage, etc), I mentioned to him how great it would be to propose during a long weekend and he agreed. Hnece why proposal won’t occur on a weekday.
So I’m just curious to know how many Bees out there knew their proposal date in advance? How did you find out? How did you feel about finding out and how did you feel towards the lead up to proposal date considering you know the proposal date? Did it make the proposal less of a surprise? How did you react when he dropped to one knee and proposed? I mean, you knew already this was going to happen.
Btw, my SO confirmed he’s the ring. So I know he has the ring as well. The only details I’m unaware of is where we’re going, how he’s going to propose and how the long weekend will play out. Unsure if proposal long weekend will start Friday night. Or from early Saturday morning. So the major details I’m unaware of. Which still leaves that element of surprise I guess. It’s just not a 100% OMG cry hands over your mouth and tears streaming down your face moment anymore.
Thanks in advance for your time in reading my post and providing your comments and feedback. I appreciate it.
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Post # 2
I knew about my proposal. A family friend didn’t know he was getting ready to propose and she went to visit my parents. My Fiance was visiting them making proposal plans and she told me his car was there (again not knowing why he was there) and he had told me he was at work. So the cat was out of the bag. He tried telling me it would be April 23rd to throw me off, but I knew he had work that day so I had a feeling it would be the 16th when he had the day off. And I was right.
I was a little bummed out that I knew the date because I felt bad for him. He had worked so hard to keep it a surprise and secret so I felt bad for that part. But of course I was fricken excited that I would soon be his future wife. I didn’t know the exact time of day he was going to propose (although I had a very strong idea, which was also right haha) but it was still special. It wasn’t a massive surprise by any means, but it was still extremely special and a wonderful moment for us!
Post # 3
I had no idea until about 5 second before he proposed and was fishing around in his pocket. I was so surprised and just overcome with emotion I hardly remember it. I just remember being on the pier and telling him I loved him a million times and that I needed to get back to the beach because I was starting to feel lightheaded haha.
He proposed to me on his birthday because he knew it was the last thing I would expect. I was wonderful, I was really glad it was a surprise. I don’t think I would have wanted to know.
Post # 4
Lol! Now that sounds like a surprise proposal. Whereas I know in advance.
Post # 5
I agree. Despite knowing the date, there are still more details of the proposal I don’t know about which still maintains that level of surprise. Plus, I get to spend a long weekend with my soon to be fiance!
Post # 6
I knew that he had bought the ring, but I didn’t know the date of the proposal. I had a sneaking suspicion that it would happen on Easter (since it’s one of my fav holidays.) But on the actual day of I was so distracted, that he ended up catching me off guard when he walked in from the garage with my Easter basket with a sparkly ring in it!!
Like you said there will still be other details that you dont know about! Dont overthink it and try to enjoy your special weekend!
Post # 7
I knew.. Fiance never ever plans anything, ever. So.. when he told me to clear a Friday night so we could go out for dinner at a nearby michelin star restaurant… well it didn’t take a genius to figure out what was going on.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2016 - Hunting Hill Mansion
I knew the exact day and time! My Fiance was going to propose on Valentine’s Day but a snowstorm left him trapped in the airport overnight. He felt so terrible of leaving me at home on Valentine’s Day (I had a very traumatic experience as a teenager on Valentine’s Day so I’ve never been a fan) that he told me he was going to propose. Even though it wasn’t his fault, I was a little heartbroken because I had a feeling that was the case. So he told me he would do it very, very soon.
We planned out a really nice dinner two weeks later at home. That day I went out and got a new outfit, new shoes, a hair cut, and my nails done. It was actually really sweet to have a day of pampering before the big moment! He made me the best filet I have ever had in my life and when he got down on one knee after we ate, I STILL cried like a baby!!! I didn’t think I would! But I still wasn’t emotionally prepared. It was amazing!
EDIT: I also picked out the ring but I was still so enamoured by it once I could actually wear it.
Post # 9
I don’t *know* but I have a hunch! I think it will be on our anniversary, but I guess I will have to wait and see!
Post # 10
Yup! I had serious inklings and turned out to be right. It wasnt any less special.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2017 - Ocean front
I guess when he said this Christmas will be very special this year, even though the gift is small in size…it’s very special.
Post # 12
Yes. Very little was a surprise about my engagement.
Post # 13
I knew about mine. I prefer major life commitments to not be a surprise..
Post # 14
My SO has my ring put away in a drawer but I picked it out and wore it around the house the day it arrived. I have given my preferred timeframe – between now and Christmas. He said he was thinking closer to the holidays. I don’t know the specific day, but have a general timeline, but I wish I knew! I hate surprises and I’m impatient! Even though I’ll know it’s coming, I’m sure I’ll just be so overjoyed that I don’t have to wait any longer and can finally be engaged to him that me not being totally shocked won’t even matter.
Post # 15
I knew. I love my Fiance dearly, but he’s the least sneaky person on earth. He’s not much of a planner (that tends to be my role in the relationship) but kept insisting on arranging outings. His first plan fell through after being rescheduled multiple times due to rain, so he planned a second evening not dependent on weather. If all the planning weren’t obvious enough, he’s also *extremely* absentminded. So, for instance, after we got rescheduled the second time, he wandered off to work and left a chat open with his friend where she asked how it went, and then he said “I’m thinking about planning something indoors instead so it doesn’t keep getting delayed.” Then, later, he forgot to close a tab on his browser before I got home that clearly showed he had been emailing photographers. He forgets to do things -all- the time when he gets distracted, so it was totally in character and basically hilarious. On top of that, one day I found where he had hidden the ring (which I had previously observed a receipt for in his inbox).
tl;dr: basically, my Fiance was the most obvious person ever and I knew everything. But you know what? I still had tons of butterflies leading up to it, and during, and after (someone asking you to spend the rest of your life with them is pretty mindblowing and exciting, even when you thought you were prepared). Also, I had SO much fun preparing in advance and planning out the perfect outfit, nail color (thanks Bees!), etc and talking it all over with my friends to analyze at great length. So, I’m glad I knew, actually. 🙂