(Closed) I am 24 and never had a boyfriend and I'm worried.

posted 4 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I didn’t have a real boyfriend until I was 25. I dated a bit here and there but nothing was serious. I’m now 30 and getting married in 4 months.

The best thing you can do is just live your life. Go out, be involved, talk to people. You’re definitely not too old to have a first relationship!

Post # 17
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Busy bee

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angelhassan :  don’t worry. U r still very young! I had crushes when I was young. Dated for two weeks when I was 31, when I dumped the dude he said I was old and wouldn’t find anyone else. I met my fiancé a year later. I was 32. I’m 35. We’ll be married in May 2019! So yeah, focus on building you as a person. He will come. Xx

Post # 18
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Newbee

Didn’t have my first bf until age 25, not with him but that lasted about 5 years. Once I had been in a relationship all of my relationship anxiety stuff went out the window. Dating wasn’t so scary. I would suggest online dating if you feel you aren’t meeting enough ppl in day to day life. I also think if its something you want you should make an effort not because of society or anything but bc it’s important to you. And once you start, it will come a lot easier. 

Also my gf has been with her first boyfriend for 3 years and is getting married this May at the age of 33. I wouldn’t be crazy concerned you def have time but at the same time I really believe in going for things that are important to you. 

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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stressedlady :  that is EXACTLY what I did until one of them WAS my perfect man 💗 now I’m married to him 😃

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

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stressedlady :  This! I did this. I’m an introvert with some extovert tendancies (I really just don’t care what others think of me anymore, to be honest). I had a 7 year relationship that ended horribly. He was the only person I had been with ever. I needed new experiances and needed to meet new people. I was 23 at the time. I booked a few dates a week and I met SOOOO many guys from so many walks of life! I learned what I did and did not want and found a new self confidence within myself. I became enough for myself. Eventually, I met my soon to be husband….. and I met him on a dating app smile I never thought I could be this happy!

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2021

I’m nearly 24, and engaged. 
A little over a year ago I’d never been in a relationship. 
At 20 I hadn’t yet kissed a guy. 

I used to write on forums too, worried that something was wrong. Nothing was wrong, I just wasn’t ready and I hadn’t found the right person – which isn’t as magical and fairytale-ish as they say, by the way. 

I got very anxious (still am) because I feel like I wasted my time as a teenager due to not dating and such, but honestly it’s NOT A RULE to date around. It’s something I have to grieve, but it’s okay. 

Your time will come <3 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

I dated prior to meeting my Fiance just prior to turning 25. He was my first serious relationship, and the only person I have ever considered a partner. I’m glad I didn’t date when I was younger, because when I decided to commit to someone, I knew what I wanted. I just didn’t expect to find someone as lovely as he is. It’s your life! No one else gets to dictate what is best for you. I agree with the other bees, though. Put yourself out there, and find your own confidence in the process. Do it for you, and you may find someone really special in the process. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee

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mmmmm1992 :  How lucky your husband will be when he find a pure virgin to be his wife. 

[barfs discreetly into a potted plant]

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

 

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mmmmm1992 :  You have no idea what you sound like do you?  

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I was never that focused on dating. I had good friends and kept busy. I didn’t care to date around; I found online dates kind of awkward and uncomfortable (even though I think it’s a good idea to try). I didn’t get a boyfriend until I was 25, and I got engaged to him 9 months after we started dating. I’m glad I spent so much time being single, because I was really comfortable with myself, and I knew what I wanted. I didn’t have to date around a bunch to know what felt right. Be patient! 

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My husband was extremely shy and anxious around dating and people in his younger days . He met his first girlfriend online and at 22 did everything for the first time with her. I was his second everything. We have been together happily together for over 11 years and married for 5 years.

You do what feels right for you and spend less time worrying about what  you think everyone else is doing. When you are ready you will meet the right person who will get you and love you for who are.   

 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

Don’t consider statistics like, how old for this, how long for that. In my opinion, you are doing something right, that you don’t have a string of lousy relationships with a bunch of damaged men, like I did from a younger age. 

Dating around a lot isn’t in itself a good thing. Having little experience until you find the right guy is perfectly fine.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I was single for pretty much all my life until I met my now-husband when I was 25. I’m kind of the cliche of “when you finally stop looking you’ll find someone”- and I know it’s not helpful because I heard it so many times when I was your position but it’s true that it happens at different times for everyone and it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you.

Make sure you’re getting to know yourself and enjoying the time you have while single- you have the luxury to figure out what you will and won’t put up with in a relationship. I feel like not having a real relationship until I was in my mid-20s was a real asset in that regard. 

Do you have any hobbies? I met my husband while doing community theatre. It helps to do different things so you can meet different people. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’ve been in your shoes.  I did online dating starting my senior year of college, and throughout the years, had some dates here and there, but nothing ever came out of it.  Never been kissed, never had a serious relationship.

 

Met my first boyfriend online at the age of 26.  He was my first kiss and first love.  Two years later, realized he wasn’t the right guy.

 

I am now engaged to be married to my second boyfriend.  Met Fiance at the age of 30.  We got engaged soon before I turned 32.  I’m 33 and we’re getting married in less than 5 months!  He’s 36, will be almost 37 when we get married.

 

I just want to tell you that I know it can be hard.  I’ve been there!  It can be lonely and frustrating.  Seeing other friends meet people and date and get engaged and married, and you’re left wondering “what about me?”  But enjoy life now as a single person.  Have fun and go out on dates.  Find out what you want in a partner through the experiences.  It sounds cliche, but it may happen when you least expect it.  I went on a speed dating event at a sci fi convention because I always wanted to try speed dating, not because I thought I would meet anyone.  And yet, I did!

Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I had my first date when I was 25ish. My second date I was 29. I dated about 5 people. None of them got past the second date. I don’t think any of them got past the first date. I met my fiance when I was 29. He was my first boyfriend. 

Everyone isn’t going to marry the first person they have a relationship with, but the number of relationships you have before you pick one depends less on how valuable you are and more on how directly you look for what you want. I could have dated alot when I was younger, but none of the guys I knew were looking for anything serious, so I didn’t date them. (I also didn’t go and find other guys, but that’s a different story.) 

Figure out what you want if you haven’t already, then go out and look for it. 

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